Need To Talk To People Who Understand/Been There

Hey All,

 I just need to talk to people who have been or are un my shoes and  understand.... I just need to get this off my chest.

for those of you who don't  know me  I am 5'3" and weigh  close to 225 lbs. My BMI is 38.4 . I am 28 years old.

I go to work today at the hospital and we have a patient who called my fat ( in not so nice of terms) and asks where is the baby :(  I am really hurt by this. i am hurt because she pointed out what I know every one else sees,yet she was just the oneto say it. I know I am "fat." I know I will always be this way as  all other dets failed and the WLS is my last resort. I am worried I won't be approved and I will have to  not only live with being/looking "fat" as others see me bt with being unhealthy .

I am sorry I am just very very emotional now and just needed to talk to  you guys.

M

there are people out there that are just plain nasty  they don`t care what they say or to whom they say it  to( just know your better than they are ) i would just walk away   from that person  if you can`t  walk  away from that person  due to your job  report that person(to YOUR BOSS your health problems(weight) is a medical problem so you should not   half to put up with that kind of treatment   from any one   remember also that  if you work in a hospital  the patients  are there for a reason there sick  and they will lash out at everyone  if they can  but still some people are just mean your true friends won`t care  same with your family as long as you trying to do some thing about your health      just smile tommorow will be a better day

I find that if you can come up with a smart answer to these ignorant people the better you will feel.
I know of a few that say: I might be fat but I can loose weight but you are just ignorant and you can't change that and just walk away.
OMG thank you for telling me that, I would never have known.    lol can't ya see the look on his face. lol

Hey M,

So sorry this happened to you - some people are just plain ignorant!  Try to forget about it, but if they say anything to you again, you might want to try a funny comeback as already suggested (since you're at work you don't want to be rude since that can come back to bite you) you could try:  Fat People are harder to Kidnap! Or even just ask "What's your point?"  I know it sucks when people are soooo rude, but that's a reflection on them, not you.  If it makes you feel any better, I can't wait to weigh ONLY 225 (I'm 5'3" too!) 

People are nasty. 
Then you get the ones who stare, nice.

I would have told that person, "no **** sherlock" 
or "so tell me something I don't know"

I too would be pretty excited if the scale said 225!  lol

Yes but 225 lbs on a  5'3 frame with high  blood pressure , diabetes, PCOS  ,hip pain,knee pain and other things is no fun.....

Thank you guys for all your kind words.

Too think a fellow woman could be so rude when she herself was heavy  totally blew my mind.

Hey, I get it!  Sorry, I wasn't trying to make light of the problem - just trying to let you know you're not alone... 

M,

I just read your post.  I"m so sorry that happened to you!  There is no need of anyone being that rude to another human being.  Some people just simply have no manners.  I feel your pain.  My BMI was 40.3 and I'm 5'4' so I was heavier than you are.  I never had anyone at work comment on my weight my problem was my parents.   Can you imagine, the people who are supposed to love you unconditionally had criticized me about my weight from the time I was a teenager.  It is devastating no matter where it comes from and it hurts your spirit.

Just plan on having the surgery.  It completely changes your life.  I had it 4 months ago and I wouldn't go back for anything.  Please don't think about not being accepted into the plan in Halifax.  There is a long wait there but it sounds like you have some health issues which may put you higher on the list.  If you don't want to wait you can go somewhere else to have it.  There are many, many options.  Please don't let this rude person get you down, your weight is only temporary.  You will have the surgery and be so much healthier and happier.   I started out at 238 and I weighed myself this a.m. and was 171.  I seem to lose 2 pounds most weeks now with the odd 3 pound loss occasionally.  It just happens...  This will be you. :)

Hugs and all the best to you,

MJ

Thanks gals for all your responses.  :)