this surgery and marriage

I do have to warn you about this surgery and marriage, they say that lots of spouses can't handle it when you lose a bunch of weight, and that is for many reasons, they say that some people like thier spose chbby so that no one else will look at them, and the worry of being left is less, there is the whole low self esteem angle, if you are heavy you may have that as an issue, and if you loose the weight you may very well come out of it and decide that you don't want or need to take being treated badly, there are lots ot things, but none of those was a fear for me at the time. I went into this surgery thinking that since I was always trying to loose weight, and he was always incouraging me, it would not be us that didn't make it, and now that we are getting divorced, it is for other reasons, but I do look back and notice that since I started really loosing the weight, and becoming a newer me, he wasn't the same, and I think that that is part of what led to the things that made it all end...Oh well...if he can't handle me now, then I am better off without him...After the surgery, I got more confidence and I started to speak my mind more, and do more things, not even like social things, no wild parties, no crazy drinking, no staying out all night, nothing like that, stuff like learning new things, trying to change my own oil, carpentry, things that my weight was in the way for...if he can't handle a strong woman, then I don't want that for me, and I certainly don't want to become the old me I was...I have learned a lot about myself this year and almost a half since I had the surgery...