things i don't know

there are two major issues that i don't know how to do  i don't know how to shop --  i have no idea how to guage a size -- shopping used to be easy!! go to walmart or kmart -- go to the plus size department -- Hanes JMS (just my size) sweat pants -- buy blue, black, grey and probably another black pair  2x or 3x-- pants are done -- then over to the men's department for t-shirts -- 2x or 3x -- a couple of black, red, grey,blue -- ok all done with the shirts -- underwear and bras -- easy --whatever is still in the drawer at home from 1952 cuz aint' nobody gonna see them anyways -- white socks -- shopping is now done  NOW i buy jeans -- and i want to look nice -- so i want blouses and pretty shirts -- i don't want sweats anymore -- i don't want men's t-shirts anymore -- i want pants that have buttons and zippers!! it was easy as the sizes were going down after an 18 -- just buy the 16's 14's 12's 10's 8's 6's OMG 6's  -- now it's 4's -- can't find them in the jeans i like -- i like jeans that hide my belly so i can hold in the skin -- i feel like everything made in a size 4 is for ditzy teenagers -- i dont' want a slogan across my ass -- i want a plain pair of blue or black jeans -- i don't need all the bells and whistles -- just a pocket to hold my cell phone and my keys -- i want my shirts to look nice -- i dont' want sexy slogans on them -- i'm a dam grandmother!! not some hussy trying to pick a piece for the night  -- been there done that a LONG LONG time ago!! i want a plain shirt -- ok so maybe the shirts i can still find  in walmart -- but the pants are a NO NO -- some people think -- oh that must be nice to be so thin and buy that size -- well it's hard for me-- i'm having a tough time -- yes it's nice to be thin -- but i want some clothes to cover the hanging skin too the other thing i don't know how to do is go out to eat -- i don't know how to order off a menu -- i can stare at it and stare at it and have no clue what i want -- i always settle for a cheeseburger -- i won't order a salad cuz i'm afraid that i can't chew it good enough -- quizno's is shredded at least so i can order a salad there -- i'm very self conscience about ordering in a restaurant -- first question they ask is what you want to drink -- nothing please -- would you like some water -- no thank you -- are you sure? YES i'm F'en SURE!! right there i'm in a bad mood and i want to leave -- why can't the waitress/waiter believe that i don't want anything to drink??? so now i'm back to staring at the menu -- keep going back to the stupid cheeseburger -- they all come with fries, pickles, whatever -- i don't want all that -- i don't even want the bread -- ok i'll order a cheeseburger wth no bread please -- then i get the look -- are you crazy?? no bread?? are you sure??? i can tell what they are thinking with the look -- i also try to find foods that are portion controlled -- i know the burger will be small haha  and if these are my only 2 problems with having Weight Loss Surgery then i think i'm doing pretty dam good :)  and i shouldn't complain -- it's just that i don't know how to shop or go out to eat anymore  -- it's so much easier for us to take a ride and stop at WaWa and i get a cheese stick and a bottle of water or stop at a Super Walmart and i'll get a yogurt and a bottle of water and probably a box of wheat thins  ok that's it for now -- thanks for listening to my complaints Roberta

Roberta, First off, you are to funny w/ your explanations.  Not knowing how to shop or eat is probably VERY difficult.  I saw myself the other day at a restaurant and saying to hubby "now what the heck could I get here after my surgery??"  We both kinda laughed and said...well...we'll save money not eating out!  HA! I didn't realize the difficulty in shopping.  I still believed it would be pretty "easy" after all the hassle I go through trying to shop now (I don't wear sweats and what not and trying to find things that look good on me while hiding the rolls of fat to a degree is challenging)  I also came to realization last night (as I was wearing a little bit of a low cut shirt) my "girls" are one of my assessts to a degree...and what the heck to I wear when they are gone.  Don't get my wrong...my back aches will LOVE when they are diminished but sheeeeesh. As far as eating out....what about a grilled chicken sandwich and not eating the bread?  I'm surprised you still get looks.  Most of the restaurants by us, with the recent "atkins" craze, actually offer that on the menu in a low carb section.  Maybe you'll just have to start driving 3 hours up to central jersey for a dinner out.....LOL!! Great job on the weight loss - and I hope to have the same problems you do one day!!!  Thanks for all your inspiration!! Pam

Pam for the year 2005 i wrote down every single time we spent money on out to eat -- i wrote it on a pocket calendar to keep track not only of the money but also the days -- and i wrote down where we went -- the summer of 2006 i was sick all summer and not eating anyways -- ross had his surgery in may of 06 -- so my reasoning was -- look at all the money we are saving by not going out to eat -- so on october 18th 2006 we went out and bought a second car -- a 2006 hyundai tucson limited edition -- nice -- we already had a car payment -- actually i was trying to prove to him that we could't afford a 2nd new car - -but the dealer was a jerk and i ended up at another dealer -- but my reasoning was that we saved all that money per month by not eating out -- and ya know what -- the hyundai isn't sending us to the poor house yet :) it's really amazing what we save  NO Outback NO Olive Garden NO Lonestar NO Filomena's NO Geno's Pizza NO Burger King NO McDonalds NO Fuddruckers NO Carrabbas NO Diners on a Sunday Morning and besides, there is no reason anymore to throw all that fast food down our throats -- i just can't justify it anymore -- i want real food -- i want good food -- and i want a portion i can eat -- so a little cheeseburger at a diner is fine for now i guess -- as for chicken -- sometimes me and chicken aren't friends Roberta

Roberta,

 

You are too funny.  Sleeze it up.  You worked hard for it.  Get a t shirt that says SEXY GRANNY.  At size 4 I think I would live in Victoria Secret and I am 52.

Good luck on the shopping.

 

Jeanne

You are hot stuff, Roberta. Mama you look fantastic! Try to have more fun shopping. I can't even imagine being that size, but I'm sure it must be hard to find adult clothes, but keep trying. You are worth it!