hello again
My name is Jennifer and I have not been on for a long time. I am looking forward to having RNY gastric bypass. I started the process 2 years ago with my best friend. She was successful and had her surgery that same year and has lost well over a hundred pounds. I on the other hand have struggled. I finished all of the pre-op requirements, except the losing of the weight. I had to lose 30lbs and i got within 11lbs of my goal and am not sure what happened. That was a year ago and now I am still struggling with the pre weight loss. I feel like maybe I am subconsciously sabotaging myself. Now I am afraid I will have to do all the pre requirements again, but that is alright with me. I really do want this for myself and my family. Did anyone else have a problem with the weight loss before surgery? I do feel like I am ready now and can use all the advice I can get. Thank you for listening to all my babbling.
-Jenn
Jenn,
no worries about babbling, we all do it when we are nervous. Welcome back and I am glad you are here. That is the first step towards your goal reaching out for support is very important.
I am not sure if you would have to do all of the pre-op programs again, that is something for your program manager or DR. to tell you. I know that I sabotaged my self for a while, I was going through the process with my DH and needed to lose the weight as well, but didn't think I could do it. I watched him go through all of the classes (which I attended with him) and walked step by step through the whole process with him. I gained 11 lbs while he lost 18. Then my mom started getting sick and I was spending time in the hospital with her, eating was on my mind a lot. I knew I had to make a choice after I lost my mother if I wanted to live to see my boys grow up and become men. They are 16 & 17, I want to see grandchildren (not any time soon) but I do want to see them and help my boys when the go through all of life's ups and downs.
It is scary, it is hard and it is the best decision I have ever made for ME!!!!! yes the kids are part of why but I wanted to enjoy life again, and now I am doing that. I have lost over 100lbs I walk with my head held high and just smile through life.
You can do this drop a line when ever you need someone to chat with or just have questions. There is a great group here!!! 
You may be only one person in the world, but to someone you are the world
You can do this, you have the tools to do it, if you have to you can do a 2 week liquid diet pre-op. Some programs call for it. I was glad that I only had a 24 hour liquids although that was easy for me. I was working and just kept drinking crystal light. Smile and relax don't go crazy it will happen when it is meant to. Good luck.
You may be only one person in the world, but to someone you are the world
I was in class with quite a few people who could not lose the weight, and dropped out. They all had excuses: I am not eating much, I don't understand, I can't! The fact that you have not given up, and that these words are not part of your message tells me quite a bit.
Some advise: Go back to the basics with Jeff's classes. Use a small plate. Put your fork or spoon down after each bite. Chew! Add more protein to your diet, less carbs. Talk to yourself, give yourself credit, don't come down too hard on yourself if you don't follow your plan exactly. Plan! Look at labels, some foods are "low fat" but high in sugar and other things. Go to support group meetings.
You didn't say how far you are from your goal. You can do this!
Now I just have to take some of my own advise!!! But that is another story for another day.
