Depressed and feeling silly about it.
Ok. I can't believe I'm about to share this cause I'm not that open. But does anyone else feel this way.
I have lost 45+ lbs prior/post lap band. Well I have been feeling so good about my weight loss that I have started to care about myself, Dug out some nice close to wear instead of tshirts and such. Started thinking of doing the things I useto like, such as camping, Real hiking in the mountains and other fun stuff like that. (don't get me wrong still got another 100 lbs to go). Well all of a sudden it hit me... I'm so depressed cause I don't have anyone to do it with... No I don't mean sex either.. Just someone to do things with, build a relationship, you know someone to care about you and you to care about them. I didn't like how I looked so I shut the world out now that door has a crack in it and it is depressing me....
I hope that you understand what I mean. Just thought I would get this off my chest cause it is driving me absolutely batty.
Gerri
I have lost 45+ lbs prior/post lap band. Well I have been feeling so good about my weight loss that I have started to care about myself, Dug out some nice close to wear instead of tshirts and such. Started thinking of doing the things I useto like, such as camping, Real hiking in the mountains and other fun stuff like that. (don't get me wrong still got another 100 lbs to go). Well all of a sudden it hit me... I'm so depressed cause I don't have anyone to do it with... No I don't mean sex either.. Just someone to do things with, build a relationship, you know someone to care about you and you to care about them. I didn't like how I looked so I shut the world out now that door has a crack in it and it is depressing me....
I hope that you understand what I mean. Just thought I would get this off my chest cause it is driving me absolutely batty.
Gerri
Gerri, 
I can fully understand how you feel. They operate on our bodies not our heads. As you open up to your old habits (hiking, camping, just walking around) you may find yourself open to meeting someone. It is hard to start doing things by yourself, but know you are not alone. By opening up and realizing that this is an issue you can deal with it. I believe there is a forum for singles, not sure where I am married but I know there have been people that have met and had a relationship with people here. Just know you are not alone. Keep up the great work and in the spring, when the mountain clears lets try and walk it together. Be safe in the snow and stay warm.
I can fully understand how you feel. They operate on our bodies not our heads. As you open up to your old habits (hiking, camping, just walking around) you may find yourself open to meeting someone. It is hard to start doing things by yourself, but know you are not alone. By opening up and realizing that this is an issue you can deal with it. I believe there is a forum for singles, not sure where I am married but I know there have been people that have met and had a relationship with people here. Just know you are not alone. Keep up the great work and in the spring, when the mountain clears lets try and walk it together. Be safe in the snow and stay warm. You may be only one person in the world, but to someone you are the world
Hi Gerri,
Oh boy, do I know what you mean. It has been very hard for me because my husband has a really bad back, bulging discs, and can't do much of anything with me. So I go to the gym by myself, run, walk, shop and so forth. I do ski with my friend, but that will be over in spring. I would love to hike, but have no one to hike with. It is depressing. I also find that it is much harder to get out and do things because it is always being done alone.
Have faith though. I have found gym buddies to work out with. I started going to Jazzercise got to get back into it) so I exercise with a group of people. I have also become more outgoing, but it is still hard that I can't do things with my best friend!
Try not to let the depression take over though. This time of year especially. Try joining a jazzercise class, or go to your local Y and see if they have any group activities. Other places may offer snowshoeing, hiking, etc., in a group session, so check that out. Just try to become more outgoing, and look for your own happines. It is there.
Martha
Oh boy, do I know what you mean. It has been very hard for me because my husband has a really bad back, bulging discs, and can't do much of anything with me. So I go to the gym by myself, run, walk, shop and so forth. I do ski with my friend, but that will be over in spring. I would love to hike, but have no one to hike with. It is depressing. I also find that it is much harder to get out and do things because it is always being done alone.
Have faith though. I have found gym buddies to work out with. I started going to Jazzercise got to get back into it) so I exercise with a group of people. I have also become more outgoing, but it is still hard that I can't do things with my best friend!
Try not to let the depression take over though. This time of year especially. Try joining a jazzercise class, or go to your local Y and see if they have any group activities. Other places may offer snowshoeing, hiking, etc., in a group session, so check that out. Just try to become more outgoing, and look for your own happines. It is there.
Martha
Hi Gerri,
I think I know how you feel. I have lost 48 pounds pre-op and post-op and have a Realize Band. I feel like I've done so much but then also see how much more I have to go and I fear I can't get there.
I have been getting more depressed these last few weeks. I think some of it is a let down after all the preparation and work we go thru to get to surgery. Then the weeks after surgery are again full of changes, work and worry as we get back to eating a new and healthier way. My friends and family I think can understand that part of it. but now its the not so obvious things I have to deal with. Body image is one thing I am dealing with. I have gone thur my closets a few times and let go of some of my cloths. This has be very hard, even when they hang on me or fall off. The variety of sizes has always been my fall back when I've done the up and down on the scale. I have a hard time to see myself as the thinner person I am.
I am trying some new activities and finding with alot of surprise that I can do them without huffing and puffing to keep up. I'm using the stairs at work and I'm not all red and hot and short of breath.
I work second shift so its been hard to connect with others at post-op support groups. I hope to get to one very soon that this might help me. I am glad to see that I am not alone with struggles because i just don't think you can understand these struggles unless you've been thur it also.
My husband is very supportive but I know he just doesn't get it sometimes. And this lousy, dark, gray and snowwy weather isn't helping me a bit.
Thanks for listening. I appreciate this forum to let some feelings out and I hope you will feel better soon as you can see that you're not alone. I sometimes think I am alone but then read our posts and see that I am not.
Thank you everyone.
Denise
I think I know how you feel. I have lost 48 pounds pre-op and post-op and have a Realize Band. I feel like I've done so much but then also see how much more I have to go and I fear I can't get there.
I have been getting more depressed these last few weeks. I think some of it is a let down after all the preparation and work we go thru to get to surgery. Then the weeks after surgery are again full of changes, work and worry as we get back to eating a new and healthier way. My friends and family I think can understand that part of it. but now its the not so obvious things I have to deal with. Body image is one thing I am dealing with. I have gone thur my closets a few times and let go of some of my cloths. This has be very hard, even when they hang on me or fall off. The variety of sizes has always been my fall back when I've done the up and down on the scale. I have a hard time to see myself as the thinner person I am.
I am trying some new activities and finding with alot of surprise that I can do them without huffing and puffing to keep up. I'm using the stairs at work and I'm not all red and hot and short of breath.
I work second shift so its been hard to connect with others at post-op support groups. I hope to get to one very soon that this might help me. I am glad to see that I am not alone with struggles because i just don't think you can understand these struggles unless you've been thur it also.
My husband is very supportive but I know he just doesn't get it sometimes. And this lousy, dark, gray and snowwy weather isn't helping me a bit.
Thanks for listening. I appreciate this forum to let some feelings out and I hope you will feel better soon as you can see that you're not alone. I sometimes think I am alone but then read our posts and see that I am not.
Thank you everyone.
Denise
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