Super Depressed

Hi all,

So i found out yesterday that my band has to be removed....I am sooo depressed it is not even funny. I feel like such a failue. I ahve lost 90 pounds with the band, I have not even had it in a year and it has to come out. I am have major issues with my stomache, I can not eat or drink with out being in extreem pain. They thought that they would be able to cure it with meds but it is only getting worst. I feel awful....this is terriable, I was told that I can have it replaced later but I dont think that I will be able to do the surgery and recovery again. I just dont know what to do, I have been crying for 3 days about this, I just feel like this is one more thing that has not worked for me, i feel like everyone is going to be waiting for me to gain the weight back, i have already heard comments from family about it..........soooooooo upset dont know what to do......

 I know it is not much, but (((((hugs))))) for you.  You have made great choices to lose 90lbs in less than a year and no one can take that from you.  You are not a failure!!!! I know it does not help but we are here if you need to vent, to cry or to shout what everything you need to do.  I wish I could do more for you, you are strong and you will make it through this!

Did the band cause this problem or is it something else? Perhaps when it is all said and done you will reconsider having a new band put in you have already been through so much and have accomplished so much already proving how strong you are! Keep positive thoughts and all will be fine...stay strong :)

Do NOT let your family's words become a self-fulfilling prophecy.  I know it is hard, I cannot imagine what you are going through.  You have learned so many new and better behaviors.  You need to dig deep and use them to your best ability.  Do not use this as an excuse to gain the weight back.  I know I sound like a heartless ***** right now, and I know that this is the worse thing that could happen, but I know you can do this.  To lose 90 pounds is simply amazing.  You are an amazing woman.  Do not sell yourself short.  YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!!!!  How can you be a failure and lose 90 pounds.  Just keep saying to yourself that you can do this!!!!!

I am so sorry that you have to go through this.  But listen to what Martha said.  You are definitely not a failure.  To be sure, the road will get a little tougher to navigate without your band, but you can do it.  You have learned so much since you started this journey.  You have to keep up your healthy lifestyle.  If you gain a little back, don't panic.  First, you are still a success.  Don't ever forget that.  Second, just keep a very close eye on your progress, and if things start heading in the wrong direction, make some adjustments right away.  Just don't wait until things get out of hand.  Pick a number in advance - say 2 or 5 pounds, and if you gain that much, pull extra tight on the reins until you find where you need to be to either continue losing or to maintain your weight.  You can do this.  If you need help along the way, remember that we are ALWAYS here for you.  Don't think that you can leave the board because you no longer have your band.  Depend on us.  Use us.  Don't give up.  We're not giving up on you!

The band is the issue and they only way to correct my tummy issues it to have it removed, it is causing acid to sit my throat and the food that can go in the pouch does not always pass so I throw up, or I am in so much pain it feels like someone i*****hing me. My hubby and I talked about it last night and he is very supportive, the first thing i need to concentrate on getting better so I can eat solid food, once I feel better I am going set a goal for myself and take it slow, thats all I can do is hope and pry and keep up the work. I went shopping last weekend and bought a pair of shorts that are a size 8 and if I have to I will try them on every week to make sure they still fit to keep at my goal. I have not been a size 8 in many many years and I guess I am just nervous that I will gain it all back. Dr G and I talked about it at my appointment and he was very supportive so that helped. I guess time will tell, thank you everyone for the advice and Martha I dont think you were being heartless at all, trust me I need to hear it and keep motivated, thanks again everyone for the support, I will post after surgery and let everyone know how it goes.....thanks again,

Is there a way you can see how you do for a while and if you are feeling better but start noticing the weight coming back will your doctor opt to do a bypass? Would you consider doing a bypass? I know in the seminar's I'm going through that ? has been asked what happens if it needs to be removed? I remember Dr. Gould saying you can later do a Roux N Y , hang in there try to eat as if it is in there once it's removed!