ever just want to throw in the towel.

Post Date: 2/14/10 7:58 am

Just venting here.
My wife and I have been married for 8.5 years now. I love her and would do anything for here. Since we move up north she has had to travel about 45 min to and from work. I do the cooking, laundry and the shopping, and try to keep the house clean. Which as come of you know can be tough with 2 litle ones{4.5 yrs old and 10 month}

Lately since she came home from a wedding in fla with her mom and sister She has been coming home in bad moods Takes it out on the kids and me, Yelling and screaming. It got to the point yesterday that our son 4.5 yrs old got yelled in the am cause he did not want to get dressed we were going to the childrens museum he told me he did not want ma to come so she would not yell.

I tried talking to her last nightand she says she's fine Balled her eyes out that she did not want the kids to hate her. I thoiygh thing would go better.

This morning cody being cody was not listening and wanted something, She yelled at him though not like ususal, she came out afterwards with the comment she gets spoken to becuse the kids don't listen.

 

She need to go talk to sonme one but says she's fine. She was in a major car wreck in dec of 08 that she was 23 weeks pregnant with jamie and trapped in the car fo an hour. I took care of her helping her on and off the throne. I just lately can not deal with all the yelling it gets to the point where I see myself eating more than I should.

I love her. I just need her to understand that She is making everyones life harder because of the way she acts.

Her mom and sister are also part of the problem, from a bad real estate deal that left us almost 40,000 dollars in the hole and the leave comments about thing.

At time I just want to throw in the towel, Today she is going to lunch with the kids and her mom and sis, ought to be an interesting afternoon.

 

scotty b

 

Hang in there Scotty, and keep talking to her.   She could be going through a lot right now, and unable to talk about it.  The trama of the accident, the recovery, having your second child, going back to work, post partum depression.  You never know, but you need to keep talking to her and hopefully she comes around to tell you what is going on.  I know it is very hard. I put my husband and family through hell before I got help.  Just keep doing what you are doing, and explain to Cody that mom loves him very much, and talk to her some more!

Scotty,
  she may not realize how loud she is yelling, place a tape recorder in the kitchen, kids bedroom or somewhere to just record when she is home.  I know at one time I was like this, and it was hard to listen to the tape.  I did learn a lot.  I found I had to take my 1 hour drive home to leave work behind, and start my day again when I get home.  I am not perfect at it, but I am better and my boys & Husband are better off for it.  It is tough being out of the house and everyone pulling you in all directions and then add into the mix the pull of family.  Take a deep breath, try to use positive reinforcement with the kids and let them know they are loved.  They will feed off your stress and your reactions.   Please let me know if you would like to chat.

Thanks gang I just needed to vent, I have talked to a few people latly and I think it is more post pardom.
Once I talked with her the other night about what cody said she seems to be a bit calmer

I would never truly throw in the towel I love pauline and my kids. Thats why I try to do so much for them to make life easier.
scotty