surgery fears

Hello, I'm new to posting here.

I started the program and am closing in on being done with everything. Basically I just have a few more pounds to loose.

Now that I'm here I am so scared. I'm scared that I'm making a terrible decision, and that I will regret it. I started having nightmares the beginning of this week- not related to the surgery at all, but basically attacking everything I hold dear. I'm thinkin that these nightmares (which I've never had before in my life ) are being brought on by the stress I'm under.

I'm wondering if this is a normal way to feel before surgery? I still want to go through with it, as this is really my last resort at weight loss, and as it is now I'm killing myself at this high of a weight.

Thanks for any input.

I think it is a natural thing to be going through.  This is a big surgary to be having and you wouldn't be normal if you weren't feeling stressed.  I haven't had the surgary yet but that is what I think Hope it helps.

I haven't had surgery yet either, but I know what you are going through!! I went through a phase where out of the blue I would think, oh my God! What am I thinking?? I will NEVER be the same after this!! Other people do this, I can't do this! But, I know it is what I want and need. To me my weight and the things that go along with it seem like a bigger risk then the surgery, but it is big, it is life changing and it is scary....and I can't wait!!  I am waiting for insurance approval and a date.  I have Dr. Gens. Hang in there!!!  Cindy

Thanks for the support. It's nice to know that other people are having the same feelings about the surgery. I wish there was some magical look into the future so that I could clearly see that this is the right thing for me.

Deep down I already know it is, my brain is just having some trouble catching up I think :)

Hi Sarabeth,

What you are feeling is totally normal, for any surgery, not just weight loss surgery.  To make this decision is a hard one, but the best one you will ever make.  Those of us who have gone through it, or are going through it, are the only ones *****alize what we are feeling.  Hang in there, you will be fine, and the nightmares will go away! 

Are you having RNY or Lapband?

Thanks for the support. I'm already feeling slightly better than when I posted that. I saw Nancy today and learned that I lost another 6 lbs- so that could be the reason. :) Feels like a downward slope from here, for the first time in my life.

I'm having RNY, because I don't want to even give myself a chance to mess this up. :)

Hi,
Know what you are feeling is pefectly normal. I had my surgery 3 years ago. I also had RNY. I remember the morning I was scheduled to go in, I told my husband I was sick and couldn't go. I told him I had a fever. Well they took my temp. and I was just fine.  I am so grateful for going through with it and doing this for me. I now wish I would have done it years ago. You can ask for them to give you something to calm your nerves when you get at the hospital. I feel wonderful and you are going to also. I am glad you lost 6 pounds. Good luck and keep us posted.
Hugs!
Roxanne

It's nice to know that I'm not the only one that has these thoughts. I keep thinking... if I don't go through with it, I KNOW me and I KNOW I won't loose the weight on my own. I need help. Do I really want to look back in 2 years and think..."man, I wish I did the surgery...I wonder where I would be in life if I had." I think thats also a big fear I have at this point. It's either power through this fear, or regret it.

I hear you SarahBeth. I had an appointment about 5 years before I had surgery. It was in Boston and I had to wait almost a year to see them. They called and I backed out and said I was giving Weight  Watchers another try.
( which didn't work again ). Also it was too far to go. They wasn't doing surgery here at time.  A couple years later I wished I had done it. I then heard about Ports. program. I did this all by myself. For my health and me.  I have never regretted my decision.
Any questions send me an email.

Roxanne