Surgery Date
I finally got my insurance approval and my surgery is set for Feb 2, 2010. I am so excited however friends and family are not. My 20yr old daughter called me all upset and crying about how scared she was for me. I tried having discussions with her through out the many months I have been planning this and got the usual teenager response. Obviously it went in 1 ear and out the other without computing as she's just now looked it up on the net. Maybe the fact that I have a date made it real for her. She's coming home this weekend and I plan to bring her to this web site so she can see all the great information and support I will be getting. Can anyone think of a better way to re-assure her?
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Congrats on the date. You are going to get the people out there that will be rejective to the surgery. I went threw it as well I had my best friend tell me that he thought i was nuts and would not talk to me if i did this. Well we were friends for a long time but i did this surgery for me and my family.
Today over 2 years out I am healthier I have climbeed mout washington 2 times and I am back climbing trees. I have lost almost 220 lbs.
scotty
Congrats on the date. You are going to get the people out there that will be rejective to the surgery. I went threw it as well I had my best friend tell me that he thought i was nuts and would not talk to me if i did this. Well we were friends for a long time but i did this surgery for me and my family.
Today over 2 years out I am healthier I have climbeed mout washington 2 times and I am back climbing trees. I have lost almost 220 lbs.
scotty
Hi Jennifer,
The fear is brought on by not being educated about the procedure. You need to let her know that this is not something that you have gone blindly into without know the risks and benefits. Also be blunt with her that without this surgery, your life will not be as healthy and productive as it will be once you lose the weight. It is a very scary thing to look at when you don't know all of the facts, and listen to the horror stories. Just be very positive, and that emotion will transfer. It may take a while, but it will. Also just realize that my very first major surgery, my daughter was very upset, even though it had nothing to do with this. It was just the idea that mom was having surgery and she might not be able to be there for her. Let her know that yes, there are people who have died after having the surgery, but people die after other surgeries too, and unfortunately, we only hear of the bad and none of the good.
The fear is brought on by not being educated about the procedure. You need to let her know that this is not something that you have gone blindly into without know the risks and benefits. Also be blunt with her that without this surgery, your life will not be as healthy and productive as it will be once you lose the weight. It is a very scary thing to look at when you don't know all of the facts, and listen to the horror stories. Just be very positive, and that emotion will transfer. It may take a while, but it will. Also just realize that my very first major surgery, my daughter was very upset, even though it had nothing to do with this. It was just the idea that mom was having surgery and she might not be able to be there for her. Let her know that yes, there are people who have died after having the surgery, but people die after other surgeries too, and unfortunately, we only hear of the bad and none of the good.
Wow good for you Scotty. I am so ready to be active again and already plan on doing marathons and triathlons when I get back in to shape and you never know I may tackle Mt Washington too.
She knows I will be much happier and healthier when I get my weight under control but the unknowns are what is bothering her. I will give her a thorough explanation this weekend now that she is ready to listen.
Bamma you are right as well, she's an only child and her and I really close and just the thought of a possibility of me not being around is freaking her out.
I'll post when I get home from the hospital when my new journey starts.
She knows I will be much happier and healthier when I get my weight under control but the unknowns are what is bothering her. I will give her a thorough explanation this weekend now that she is ready to listen.
Bamma you are right as well, she's an only child and her and I really close and just the thought of a possibility of me not being around is freaking her out.
I'll post when I get home from the hospital when my new journey starts.
Congrats on your date Jennifer! My teenage daughter was frightened too and I showed her the video online that the hospital had me watch that really described the procedure. It didn't take away all of her fears, but it helped. Then I made sure she came to the hospital after she got out of school so she could see with her own eyes that I was ok. This is when she really felt the relief. And she has told me numerous times since then how proud she is of me!
So happy you're journey is about to begin! Best Wishes!
Diane
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