Help, I'm having second thoughts about surgery

I need help, I'm having second thoughts about surgery and my surgery is Monday morning.  I'm laying in bed thinking that this thing is going to be inside of my stomach for the rest of my life.  I've read so many blogs and people writing saying that they get sick and can't eat and etc, etc.  I've tried so many diets and failed at everyone I'm affraid I'll fail at this one and I'll be stuck with this band. Now the fear is setting in.  I'm not concern about the surgery it's what comes afterwards with the liquid diets and fills and what-ifs.  Is this normal?
Renee

I would say that what you are feeling is normal.  I have not had any trouble with my lap band and I have had it about 6 weeks.  I might be getting my first fill this coming up Thursday, but I am not sure.  Anyways - try to stay calm, and think about the outcome of this whole ordeal.... Your goinig to be healthy!!!!  You'll be joining us on the "losers" bench.  All the meetings that you have gone to are tools to help you.  I think it is worth it.  I haven't had any trouble yet.  And I "know" I won't.

Good luck on Monday!

Crystal

Your feelings are completely normal. I've only been banded for a few days, but I've been having some of those "did I make a mistake" feelings?

I have read of far more success stories than horror stories, sdo I just keep the positive things in my mind.

I've told myself that this is a two year journey. Think about it- the next two years are going to go by whether you want them to or not, so I might as well try to do something about my health. In two years, if the band isn't working for me, or if I am miserable, then I will have it removed.

I doubt I will feel that way by then, mostly because I plan on weighing a hundred pounds less then than I do now!

If you weren't concerned then that would be a problem!  I had the pre week freakout. But surgery went well and after the first month and I was healed up and back to my regular routine I never regretted it a second.  Ill be 5 months out tomorrow and have lost a total of 83lbs.  I never could have done it on my own! 
Keep your eye on the prize and you will do great!

This is normal.  I think we all have gone through the pre-surgery jitters.  I know I did.  But 10 mos. later, the only regret I have is that I didn't do it sooner.  Food is not our friend, much as we have treated it that way for so long.  I don't really miss the foods that I don't/can't eat anymore.  I don't know if it's the same with the band because I had RNY, but I love that the connection I once felt to food is now broken.  As far as your fear of failing, if you follow the rules, you won't fail.  If you cancel the surgery, you likely won't succeed.  Hang in there.  Tuesday is not far away.

I actually cancelled my surgery on the Friday before my date of the following Monday.     Cancelled not postponed!!!


It was cold feet , I called the next week to reschedule after i kicked myself in the arse for cancelling the original date.


Follow your heart , if you trly need to wait then wait, only you know if you are ready .  We are here for you whether or not your surgery takes place MOnday r next month etc etc .



Jen   aka "someone who was scared to death of her surgery"

Geez Jen, now I don't feel so bad.  I wonder how many people do cancel and never call back?  But you did and that's great.  I took two weeks off from work and just going to relax and recoup. 
Ren

If you aren't ready to make the committment, then you might be better off postponing it for a little while. I had first joined the program in May 2007, but my heart wasn't in it. I wasn't ready to rally start getting serious about it until just this past spring.

Do what's best for you. If waiting a few weeks or a month or two will help you, then that's what you should do!

Well thank you, all of you.  I'm sure it's just the same feeling I got the night before I got married, "cold feet" .  When I woke up this morning I felt better and said to myself, "yes, I want this".  It's that ole saying, "If you don't try you'll never know".  For my last supper tonight we ate at Warrens seafood in Kittery, ME.  I ate so much I couldn't walk out.  Tomorrow it's, hello popsicles and Jello. 
Renee

Funny  - I started feeling the exact same way last night.  Thankfully I was with my very supportive extended family and they all "talked me off the ledge".  We'll both do great  - And we'll be band twins!