I'm so sad

When I met with Dr. Paciulli on 6/30, I got the impression that my insurance paperwork would be submitted right away - especially since she told me that getting the surgery in more than a month before my vacation wouldn't be a problem.  I also expected BCBS to get back to us quickly based on other people who have that insurance.  So...since there was a holiday in there, I gave them 7 business days before I called to check up on things - 2 days to get the paperwork in and another 5 for the approval; I thought that sounded reasonable.  Gayle told me that my paperwork hasn't even been submitted yet!  She told me that she just received the dictation from my appointment today and that it would be submitted this week.  I was so flabbergasted I didn't even think to ask if that meant this calendar week (ie, tomorrow) or in the next 7 days. 

I sat at my desk crying.  I waited so long for insurance that would pay for it, then I worked so hard to meet the requirements, and now I don't see how I'm going to be able to have my surgery in time if the insurance paperwork isn't even completed yet.  We were already cutting it so close.  I know that I should just buck up and deal with it - it's not like I've been told I can't have the surgery or anything, I'll just have to put it off for another couple of months, but I'm just so disappointed.  I feared this would happen before I ever met with Dr. P. but she was so nice & encouraging that I got my hopes up again.  That call today just shattered that and I feel like a flat tire. 

I'm so sorry. I know how you feel. It is very disappointing to have to wait for a few more months. When I met with her in April, I thought sure that I'd be able to have my surgery in June, but the scheduling just didn't work out that way.

You're feeling bummed now, and nobody can blame you for that. I just looked at it like this: I've been overweight for thirty years, another few months isn't going to make THAT much of a difference.

And, in five years, you'll look back at who you are today and you'll barely recognize yourself. Those extra months won't have made much of a difference in the grand scheme of things, especially when you consider that this is a surgery that will have a huge effect on the rest of your life.

You have such an awesome attitude about everything - you said basically the same thing after the support group this week and I was trying to remind myself of your words.  I know in my head that you're right.  I just wish my emotions would get on board. 

I will tell you I was freaked out about getting approval.  My surgeon submitted on June 26th and I just got the approval today....I think that is pretty timely.  Take a deep breath.  Try (yeah, right!) to not worry about what you have no control over----

I know how disappointed you must feel. Try not to fret too much. The same thing happened to me. I called Gail about a week after my appointment and was told the paper work had not yet been submitted. That was on a Friday - the following Tuesday I called again and it was done. I heard from BCBS within a week. Then when Betty gave me my date I couldn't do it then and had to pu**** out 2 more weeks! I looked at it this way - it gave me more time to get in the best shape possible for surgery. Good luck and keep us posted.

Hi Neener,   Aw, I am sad for you.  But I know my letter of approval got to me in a week from when my packet was submitted.  Maybe your time-frames won't be blown?  In the here and now, these things really throw us.  I know they do me.  But in the long run, they end up being small potatoes.  Little comfort today, I know.  I'm pulling for you - Treading

Have you spoken with Dr. Paciulli's office?  When I had my surgery done, the person to talk to was Erica.  I had a similar thing happen and I called Erica and she got it done.  Give it a try.

Any news, Neener?  I've been hoping to see a happy post from you every day but....?    Treading

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