I Told Sister - Major Hurdle!
Good Morning NH,
I told my older sister about my surgery yesterday. Man, it wasn't easy but I was prepared for the worst. My decision is made and I wasn't going to change anything but I wanted her to know even if she couldn't be supportive. I should add that this sister is much older than me and very motherly - that job being long vacant. She takes her role quite seriously. LOL.
I am very pleased to report that it went MUCH better than I feared. At first she told me I was NOT going to do this. But I assured her I was, indeed. Has it happened to you that people see your success at losing some weight (I've lost 30 lbs this past year) as proof that you don't need surgery? That is happening to me now. When I reminded Sister that I have successfully lost 20 to 80 lbs 13 times in the last 25 years, she had to agree that diets weren't working.
I don't know that Sister will ever be a WLS cheerleader for me. But I don't need that from her. I have what I need -her knowledge and understanding. So, yesterday was a great day for me. Treading
Hi Jenn, Rosemary, and Neener,
Thanks so much for the cheers and support. It is going to be just fine between me and Sis, I know. I wasn't going to be angry with her if she had a bad initial reaction - crumb, I nearly walked out of my doc's office when she first asked me to think about WLS! These things take time. I can well imagine, Rosemary, the fright of a parent in your situation and, as you say, look where you are now. Time is almost always a friend.
It is so good to have this place to come to and to talk with people who have really worn the shoes. Thanks so much - Treading
Oh I am so glad it went well for you and your sister. You had the right attitude, but were not snooty about it. :) Great job.
I hear you with the 'well you've lost weight so you don't need the surgery' comments. My dear husband (half jokingly) said as am I losing the preop weight that 'if I keep this up I won't need the surgery'. Ofcourse I knew he was kidding and does support me.
Keep up the awesome work! How is the insurance approval going?
So true, Jenn. If I thought I could turn this 30 lb loss into an 80 lb loss and keep it off for 5 years, I'd cancel in a heartbeat. Alas, I am having surgery in September. I think! My approval isn't going anywhere as yet. I called but it hasn't left the building - no problems it just takes a while for all the dictation. It will be submitted by end of week and maybe by Wed.
Now, I'm going to be a little distracted until I hear back but I have left myself plenty of time so it isn't like I am going to be late for anything. LOL. I'll survive the wait. Say hi to DH and maybe see you on Monday in Derry? Treading
I just want to say that I also got the same comments. I lost 26 lbs. preop, and "why couldn't I just keep going?" was what a lot of family members and close friends said. I would always explain how the weight never stayed off, and this time would be no different absent the surgery. It took me awhile to figure out that all of those people, who are near and dear to me, weren't trying to be unsupportive. They were just scared for me. This is major surgery. They love us the way we are and shiver at the thought of something going wrong with the surgery. So, Treading, you approached it the right way with your sister. Her lack of an outward showing of support is probably just her way of telling you she loves you and doesn't want to see anything bad happen to you.
"I am not the skin I'm in, but the soul within."
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