Sticking to it?!

Been trying to walk everyday for exercise. Been able to do that. Honestly it hurt a lot in the beginning. My feet were hurting, I think because of inactivity.  Now i'm trying to track my food, i'm not doing to good. I'm so shy about doing this. I have my appointment with my pcp coming up soon and am going to bring up WLS. I am so afraid of trying again just to fail. I am almost sabotaging myself. How do you stick with it?  Any tips, help, ideas?  Jennifer

Jennifer, I'm still grinding my way through the steps to gettting WLS.  I felt shy about asking my PCP for a referral to the Obesity Treatment Center but knew I had to if I was going to pursue surgery.  As it turn out, he is great!  Very supportive and correctly said that if I was going to pursue WLS now was the time to do it, rather than in ten years from now when my surgical risks would be much higher. I honestly think once you have the support of your Dr, and committ to the process, things will be easier.  Every journey begins with that first one step.  Decide on it, commit to it, and remember support is just an e-mail away! Good luck! ~Donna

Donna,  Thanks for the support! I am struggling with all of this right now. I am feeling a little bit alone in all of this. My husband and I had an arguement and it feels like I don't have his support.  Jennifer

Jennifer,  Is he the kind of guy you can talk to?  Some guys are just more than a little scared at the prospect of their wives not only having surgery but also of the changes that a significant weight loss might bring about.  My first husband would have been a total ass if I had brought up the topic of WLS.  My current husband (the most wonderful, supportive, and loving guy in the world) was concerned- he had a very bad time with his first marriage and she had WLS surgery- but also understands that I am not his ex, I am me, I have sound reason for doing this, I've done my homework, and he supports me.  Loves every excess square inch of me just as I am, but loves me enough to support my decision to persue WLS.  When the tension cools down, I hope you'll be able to talk to him more about it.  There's a forum for spouses on this website, maybe that might help?  Best of luck.  This journey isn't easy and I hope in the end he will support your decision.  In any case, you've always got us here on line.~Donna

It took me 5 years to decide to do this. I watched my 2 daughters back in 2003 have open RNY. I'm not really sure what clicked for me...maybe becoming a nana for the first time or the realization that I'll be turning 50 this year. I'm so happy I made it here. 5 years ago my husband said don't you ever think about do that to yourself. Now he is my biggest supporter. He tells me everyday how proud he is of me and how brave I am to have done it. Just remember every day is a new day and don't give up. This site is wonderful. There are so many supportive kind people just waiting to help in whatever way they can. You can do it!!! Wishing you all the best. - Rosemary

Rosemary-thanks for the kind words. I guess i'm second guessing myself, feeling nervous, unsure and a ton of other emotions. Tomorrow will be better. Glad you enjoyed the pool today. Jennifer

Hi Jennifer,     Just wanted to add that DH probably needs time to adjust to this.  I know I did!  My PCP and other doctors asked me to consider WLS - it wasn't my idea at all.  I was initially hostile, hurt, offended, put -off, terrified, and well, really put out.  It took me 5 months to understand and to accept that I really could benefit and now I am 100% on board.  But that first month?  No way was I supportive of my PCP - I thought she was a quack - I did.  Best of luck - Treading

Treading--Thanks! I really needed to hear what you had to say. What a huge adjustment all of this has been. The feelings and emotions. I have been trying to be patient and understanding with my husband. After we talked about WLS, his first words..."Are you still going to cook"?!! After I calmed down, I was able to see that what he was really asking...how much is this going to change you, me, us. Though it took me sometime to get a grip, yes I wanted to yell, slap, kick him, I began to understand that this will effect our relationship and that he was afraid. Jennifer

Jennifer,

It does sound like he is wondering how it will effect your relationship. Just make sure you keep talking to him and try and keep him involved!

Ann

Ann, Thanks for the support! I'm trying to keep him involved. I just started working 2nd shift, so the family has to fend for themselves at dinner time. I was going to make a dinner for them to heat and eat, but decided it might be better to have DH cook for himself. I thought maybe if he could cook for himself, the adjustment might prepare him for the adjustment that is going to come when I have surgery. We will see how it goes as this is only my 3rd week working. I had made dinners prior to this week, but made an excuse that I way to much going on, adjusting to working etc and asked if he wouldn't mind contributing. He said sure so lets see how it goes. Jennifer