Did you tell your coworkers and friends about the surgery?
Did you tell your coworkers and friends about the surgery? What are your experiences with it? If you told people, did you regret it? Would you do anything differently?
I've told all my friends, who have been completely supportive, but I haven't told any of my coworkers. It isn't going to affect my job performance, so I don't feel the need to share. Mostly, I don't know how the reaction will be and I don't want to set myself up for something.
Once I start losing weight, I will be open about it, but I want to get some success under my belt first!
I've told all my friends, who have been completely supportive, but I haven't told any of my coworkers. It isn't going to affect my job performance, so I don't feel the need to share. Mostly, I don't know how the reaction will be and I don't want to set myself up for something.
Once I start losing weight, I will be open about it, but I want to get some success under my belt first!
I have been very open about it at work. My boss has been so fantastic. I actually got promoted last week so I know there is no ill will toward me or my decision. I think weather or not you tell people is a very personal decision. I know I do better when I'm more open about things. I'm doing ok with the few not so supportive comments. It's ironic though that I have not told my friends. I moved to NH in 2000 and have some very close friends back in Ma. I don't know I guess I think it would be awkward calling and saying guess what. They all know my daughters have had bypass and most of them were supportive. I expect to see a couple of them in Mid May at a graduation party. I think I'll tell them then. I'm sure they'll spread the word :).
I've regreted so many things because of my weight I refuse to regret anything that has to do with helping me resolve my problem.
I've told all my friends, because so much of our celebrations & get togethers involve food on some level. I knew that they would realize something was up and I didn't want my close friends to think I didn't trust them. I actually posted to a blogging site so that most of my friends could read it and all the details and have time to absorb it before we talked. It has actually worked out great for me, but I would only recommend this if you generally keep in touch via your computer like we do. I actually copied that message over into my profile here if you wanted to read it.
As far as work, I've told all the people in my office (all 7 of them) and a few other people that I work with on a regular basis but are not at my location. The 7 that are physically there would notice something quickly with all the times I'm leaving in the middle of the day for appointments. We also generally eat together once a week, and I didn't want to try to talk my way around things.
I guess that's the biggest thing that went into my decision to tell everyone. I can totally understand why other people keep it to themselves, but I felt it would be more bother to keep it a secret than it was worth.
As far as work, I've told all the people in my office (all 7 of them) and a few other people that I work with on a regular basis but are not at my location. The 7 that are physically there would notice something quickly with all the times I'm leaving in the middle of the day for appointments. We also generally eat together once a week, and I didn't want to try to talk my way around things.
I guess that's the biggest thing that went into my decision to tell everyone. I can totally understand why other people keep it to themselves, but I felt it would be more bother to keep it a secret than it was worth.
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I've told my close friends - all are supportive and ask questions. I've also told the 4 people in my office, because, like Neener said, I am leaving for doc appointments and things throughout the months. My coworkers were curious and I didn't go into all the gory details like I would with my family, being excrutiatingly honest - but they accept my decision and thats cool.
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Ahhh, to tell and who to tell-that is the question. I have told only DH, my boss and two friends - so far. I don't feel very adverse to others knowing but I am not feeling the need to share it, either. Insofar as I am not looking for approval or permission, it comes down to whether I am looking for support and encouragement. Right now I am finding all I need in my WLS community, my medical team, and my DH and friends. I do plan on telling my sister and that may not go well. Thus, I think I'll leave it until I get closer to my surgery. Like others I will likely tell my core group of co-workers just to explain what they can't help but notice and to forestall any ideas of concern for drastic illness or anorexia. That's my plan anyway. Take care - Treading
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