So I think I decided on RNY

UNtil I started talking to DH about it... He 'can't help but feel there is another way [besides surgery]'. UGH!  And of course, he likes the lap band 'better' than the RNY because it's so permanent.    Even though I gave him 100 different compelling and heartfelt reasons why I think this would give me a good lease on life, he's not convinced.  He says he'll support me no matter what I do, but.... But what?  You won't like it? He's also afraid of change - this could be part of it. I am cautious, but not scared.  Almost 3 years ago I had a total knee replacement at 27. I had some complications from the spinal, but I am 'okay'.  I have rheumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia - both of which leaves me in pain exercising and just LIVING. I need help - I need a tool to just give me a little help.  I don't see why he can't see past rearranging my insides to actually a better ME. Sigh....

Give him time.  Some men just need time to let an idea sink in.  :)

I agree, hubby needs some time.  But YOU need to be the one to decide which surgery is best for you, no matter who thinks what.  Good luck in your search for the answer that is FOR YOU.

This is completely normal for all family members to go through.  Try bringing hubby to an informational seminar... he may feel better once he learns more about the benefits!

Thanks all, I appreciate it.  On a good note, I go for NUT, PT and psych all on Wednesday.  Trying to stay positive and focused on my weight to lose, but I'm having a hard time concentrating on it, which should be the opposite. Any tips or advice? Thanks,