Relationship issues

Just wondering if anybody out there has delt with this? Now that my surgery is in sight my man is thinking that once I loose my weight I will feel young again and want to be going out alot, which now we dont do, and not want to be with him any more. He is a big guy and I love him with all my heart. I want us to get married. I know Im not doing this to look good to other men. He thinks I dont need this surgery and Im fine the way I am. Just wondering if this has come up with anybody else?

I had surgery in March and have lost 103lbs. Around Sept. I started dealing with this issue. We would go out together and he would want to do everything so that I would be sitting in the corner of where ever we where. He didn't like that men would look or even look twice. At times he would turn things around like we couldn't go out to eat before an event because I'd always bring a container home and the food would spoil in the car, we couldn't go out to a bar or lounge anymore because I can't drink, there was no point in him getting a sausage from the sausage cart in front of fenway park because "I can't eat that". Communication is KEY in this!!! We talked and still talk about everything and are able to work it all out. He thought the same things your boyfriend does (I'd want to go out with friends, meet new friends, etc, etc). Its really about communication. If you can talk it out, let him know how much he means to you and how you feel the surgery is best to feel healthy again you can get through this! good luck on your new journey

Hi, I got that also. but, our main mission in life is doing restaurants together. He wants us to go to vegas for vacation. He said when r u doing this. .. b4 or after. I said if i do it early enough I can lounge by the pool... instead of eating myself out of clothes. plus feeling better to run around and look at different things there. Minnie