Does anyone know a vicious divorce lawyer for my situation?

 So someone suggested I come here since I reside in NC and maybe people have some names to offer up ... here is my story ... sorry if it's long.

So I have a husband whom I love more than life.  He is half way (6 months) through a deployment in Iraq.  I had this surgery for both of us, so I could be healthier and we could have a better life ... as he is younger than me and in great shape.

Well about two weeks ago I came home from work to an empty house, literally.  While I was at work he had his ex gf break in and empty the house out.  Then I got a dear john email saying that he doesn't care for me anymore.  And the police won't do anything because it's civil and apparently a spouse can give anyone permission at anytime to enter their house and take whatever they want.  The same day he also emptied our bank account and savings account.

So I just had surgery a month and a half ago and I don't need this stress.  I have been getting 2 glasses of water a day since this happened ... and forget food, all I do is vomit .... my tummy is so upset.

Tomorrow is our 3rd wedding anniversary and I feel like ... I don't even know how to describe it.  I love my husband more than life and have given everything to our marriage.  And I wonder if I have a life after all of this or a future.  I have never cried so much in my life and all I want to do is sleep.  My surgeon and the therapist for our bariatric team sat me down to tell me I need to leave him ... but I think I am far too co-dependent and I worry I don't have a future and I feel so lost and sad.  I have also never failed at anything in my life ... so I dunno what to do.

and mainly i just needed to vent ... and find a REALLY good lawyer who is part cannibal and likes to eat people for lunch.  

I don't know of any lawyers but I did read your posting on the other board and I am routing for you. I hope you find a good lawyer to help you straighten this all out.

 me too.  i just feel so confused.

OMG I am so so sorry that this has happened to you. With your surgery and with him being gone I know that this has to be hard for you.  I know my last marriage I went through some of the same stuff. I was madly in love and came home and found all my stuff packed on the front porch, the locks changed and a note that just said "sorry it is me not you but I need a divorce."  For you since he is in the military I would go to the jag office first and see if there is anything you can do there.  They would know if there is any recourse that would affect him within his chain of command.  They can even give you names of attorneys in the local area.  Good Luck and PLEASE remember to put yourself first, don't let some jerk put your health on the line.  I know it is hard to eat but you need to go back to the basics and push the protein.  If you can't get it in then you need to see your doctor about giving you something that will get you through this time.  You deserve someone who will love you and treat you like a queen.  Again, I am sorry! 

Good Grief - I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. Don't know any divorce attorneys - but keep searching I'm sure you'll find a "good" one. I know it's extremely difficult for you right now but do everything you can to make sure you keep yourself healthy and you will have the final laugh. Ultimately you'll come to see that having this surgery for "you" was a much better decision than having it for both of you.

(((((HUGS)))))
- Iris

SamIAm is a family law attourney out of Raleigh --  you might email her.  She might be willing to work it long distance, or know of someone to help you.

 How do you search for people to message them?

I'll send her over to you.

al clyburn in wilmington is good.  i don't know if he would go that far, but maybe you could get a refferal.  all i can say is he did you a favor.  it may not seem like it now, but concentrate on getting yourself healthy.  you probably don't want to eat cause you have gone thru emotional hell.  i have been thru this and i can tell you it will be hard and it won't be easy, but you will survive.  you will be going thru what i call a "living death".  you will grieve, get mad, possibly depressed, but time will help.  i'm sorry that you are going thru this, and i am sending hugs.   please don't do what i did and beat yourself up day after day wondering what you did wrong.   it has taken me 7 years  to accept that i did nothing wrong, he wanted out.   hugs to you

We don't have to tell you to be strong because you are.. You already made a very scarey life decision to change your life by having surgery.  It was for you not him.  See no one is happy if we aren't happy with ourselves first.  It takes a strong person to commit to changing their life.  Look at the other half of the cup...You were married only three years, not to discredit your love but thank God it wasn't 25 years like my managers.  Hopefully there are no children involve so you don't have to anymore contact with him which will make it easier.  You don't deserve a cheat that would dishonor you by doing things in a sneaky way with an old girlfriend at that.  You don't deserve a sorry excuse of a man espically one that considers himself a Marine...what is it don't they pound honor in these guys anymore...I see so many that are just as foul mouth cheats and I wonder how they manage to stay in.  You are a new woman and obviously the lord is helping you shead everything that is not good for you.  You are young and going on a new journey.  You have a empty house yet a full heart that can love.  You will heal from this and one day you will be soo thankful that you didn't loose too much time with this fool.  You just wait...when this weight starts coming off your outlook will change!  You will be happy again I promise.  Maybe you needed this man to help you make this decision to have had surgery and that was his purpose.  But there is someone special out there for you.  Pray for that person that he is making the right decisions in life until he finds you.   You will make it through this..Just keep coming here when you need that support and uplift.  It will be hard and you will feel like running but don't.  You will need to work on being happy with yourself and being self suffiecent because it will make you a stronger woman and on an up note, a strong self sufficent woman attracks stronger men.  You did nothing wrong and you are more than he deserves...don't let yourself get weak when he tries to widdle his way back when he see's you succeeding in life without him...he'll try.  My boss's x has been back 5 times in the last YEAR...Ok I get she loves him but this is NOT just a mid life Phase.  Catholic or what ever NO woman deserves to be treated as such!!!  Were here for you...You are not alone for the most part.