I'm not taking care of me and it is showing on the scales

I know what you mean about the stress eating; I did a bit of it with the house thing myself. I had to really pull myself up short and it was the hardest thing I've ever done. I've had to pull off carbs entirely because it's such a vicious cycle, - stress, carbs, stress, carbs.

Barb, try to cut yourself a little slack. This is such a dreadfully hard time. My mother has terminal cancer right now (diagnosed right around the time I lost my home) and I just feel for you so much. They found out yesterday that her cancer has spread to the spleen. She also has had personality changes that are very negative and I find myself trying to comfort myself. It's so hard.
All my prayers, Barb!
Kit

Hi Kit,

Thanks for letting me know that I'm not alone and that like you, I can make it through this. I'm so very sorry to hear of your mother's condition. I know that when my grandmother was in a hospice situation in my mother's home and we cared for her together that it was very hard to see the personality changes that occured as the pancreatic cancer ravaged he body and mind. 

My prayers and thoughts are with you as well my friend,

I am so sorry you are having so much stress right now.  Just try to remember guilt never helped anyone.  As much as we would like we can't control other people we can only control ourselves.  Make peace with your mother about these material things.  Talk it over as hard as it is... (and believe me I know how hard it is to talk to mothers about anything... mine can lay a southern guilt trip a mile long).  Don't worry about your husband's job, house, etc.  It will all work out the way it should.  Take care of yourself physically and mentally... because in the end it's only a house...you can get another home but not another you.

Hugs,
Kelly

Hi Kelli, 

Thank you for your support, consideration and thoughtfulness. I appreciate your words of wisdom and and comfort.

I just hope you can start taking care of yourself... I have been trying hard to do that before I have surgery.  I feel so ragged all the time between, kids, work, home, husband and family.  But at some point you just have to stop.  I am tring hard to find my balance.. =)

Kelly

Hey Barbara, I know life at times is just not the hand of cards we would like it to be. Having lived in a Tent literally for months when I was in my forties to having a really nice home and a situation that is pretty comfortable it took me a long time to realize we are only caretakers of the things in life. I came into this life without a cent and will go out the same way. Holding onto things in some aspects can hurt people worse than help them. The fact you mom is moving has to be tough. I just got my parents back near me last year after a decade of living several states away and only getting to spend a day or two with them a year. Its not an easy thing to deal with parents that are experiencing terminal type situations. Sometimes just letting it out can be a good vent. Try to just be proud that you have what you have and are doing the best you can with the tools you have at present. I would speculate you are alot like me and want to eat in order to feel that emptiness that self worth can bring about when times are tough. I am also guilty as charged in that arena as well. I would think if you took each one of us at some point and asked the right question we would all have some sort of disorder to discuss and alot of them would be food abuse. Its no bad to love yourself to health. Food is by far the worst drug on the planet for many of us that dont have the metabolism to process it as fast as it goes into us. I still see me as fat as a toad when I look in the mirror. I hate to see the scales go up too and im still in the honeymoon of weightloss. I dont have all the answers either but at times i wish I did. Take heart in the fact that you need to be your best friend and teacher and as you find things that work well for you put them into action and things that dont work well LET THEM GO.. If you know your mental and physical enemies and figure out a good strategy to keep them at bay reguardless of all the advice you get hold your ground and stay with the plan that works the best.. I wish you and yours happiness and the best.

Barb,
I haven't been coming to OH very often, so when I was trying to catch up this morning i was very surprised to see your post.  I knew you hadn't been around in a while, but didn't know why. 

Barb, i'm not going to try to give you answers... only you can find them within yourself... just know that you are in our thoughts and that Stan & I send you {{{{{HUGS}}}}}, good thoughts and our prayers.

I know that time heals all things.  You are a strong and powerful woman, look at all you've accomplished, all the people you've helped so far, and all of us that love you!!  Keep on fighting the good fight... you're life will turn around... things can only improve from here... I'm looking foward to seeing you fly again....

((((((((((Barb))))))))))))
I have not been around much, Im SOOO sorry you are stressed, Im sending you a virtual hug and hope things smooth down for you

Darcie

Thank you Darcie... You have been missed.

Love,

 

Barbara you are such a kind and helpful person. I am sorry to hear you are going through all this. Now you need to redirect all that stress and other emotional baggage and EXERCISE. Instead of eating walk. Even if it is just to go outside and walk around your house.