How to deal with comments?

I just wondered if anyone else has had this happen to them and what they did about it if anything. Last night at my son's ballgame I was aways away from some of the other moms who I consider friends.  I know they are always talking about how they need tol ose 20 or 30 lbs and they know I have had gastric bypass. Anyways... last night Iheard one of them say "We should all just go have gastric bypass!" I didn't say anything but I so wanted to walk right over there and tell them that if they think this was an easy way out or and easy decision they were flat wrong! I weighed 429 lbs when I started this journey and I really had to make  a life changing decision to have this. Should I have told them that I still at 15 months out cant eat alot at one time? Should I tell them that I still throw up the foamies if I dont pay attention to what I eat or how fast I eat it?Should I tell them that my hair sheds worse than the dog down the road that I think has mange? I am proud of my decision and dont regret anything about having the surgery but I hate it when people act like it is the easy way. I didnt need to just lose 20-30 lbs. I had to lose a person. Not only physically but mentally too. I had to lose the person that believed that food would solve her problems. It is so frustrating to think that people think that 20-30 lbs is alot and they would need surgery to lose it. I never just needed to lose 20-30 lbs. My whole life I have been overweight. I thought now that I would be able to tolerate comments but now I just get ticked over a different kind of comment.
Ugggg
Sorry to rant just needed to share with those that might understand.


Melissa

I see people just like that. I have even quit telling people I had Gastric Bypass. If they only knew how hard it is.

I had a guy from church say I cheated.

So i agree with you


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Thanks for the support. I think some people think with things other than their head sometimes.

Anniep59>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>STANDING ON SOAP BOX   I would of turned to them and politly say "if you dont loose those 20-30lbs wls maybe your only choice" then walk off.
I admire you for how far you have come and are going.
So many people have no idea what life is like for a SMO person.
Melissa do not ever forget you have earned the right to talk the talk because you have walked the walk.
                                                              Annie

Thanks Annie! I guess I need to just "cowboy up" and tell people like it is. I think I still hide and shrink into the background because of the weight. Hard to break old habits.

I work with a girl I really like.  she said that she would have it in a heartbeat.  Actually she has the figure that we would kill for.  She says that she  has to watch her weight all the time.  I asked her if she thought it was any different for a WLS person.  At first they are forced into a difficult to manuver situation.  Not easy at all.  there are many hurdles.  After a bit, we all will have to depend on what every one else has to depend on; good choices.  sometimes, I wish they could just see for a moment what it is like.  This girl can wear a 2 piece swim suit with out a worry and she wants WLS.  She would probably cry at the few little scars left from the surgery.  That would totally wig her out.  I just smile and say if she thinks its easy she is welcome to it.  On the other hand she is one of my biggest supporters.  She is my work out buddy 5 times a week.  She lets me know if I need to trash something too big for me.  She would tell me if I had toilet paper stuck to my shoe and I would do the same for her.  Breath stink?  Here girl, have a tic tac. 

Your new avatar is great!  I love it. 

Thank ya Mrs. Sandy. See you Saturday!

Now I know I am older than you but stop that Mrs stuff right now and I mean it!

 come on now... ya'll live in the south now and that there is how we talk to our elders.hehehehehehe