How do you handle the "SKINNY" comment?

I just needed to ask if anyone has an issue with being embarrassed when someone says "Hey skinny--or you are so skinny"  I just say Thank you but I am not skinny and smile.  Sometimes I feel like I have to appologize for my weight loss-because if I mention my new jeans or hitting  a personal goal I have set for myself-I feel like they may think I am bragging or think I am concitied so I make an conscious effort not to say anything.  It is sad that I feel like I have to hide my accomplishments when I want to scream to the world!!!!!!!!!!!!
How do you handle these comments and/or handle these situations?  I would like to know or am I crazy in thinking this way? 

When I was six months to a year out and people made skinny comments, like you, I would say 'Thanks, but I'm not skinny.' too. Now, as long as the comment is intended as a compliment, I often just say thanks... It takes a while for our heads to catch up with the reality that we are actually slender now. It sounds to me like you are very senstive to the feelings of others which is a positive thing and I think that you can likely share your delight at your new jeans size which is a reflection of the incredible changes you are seeing in your body and your quality of life. It's normal to want to share and celebrate those changes.

Enjoy celebrating the new you that is emerging. You've earned it.

The other side of this is the people who have not had any surgery who are exposed to people who are frequently talking about what size clothes they are wearing now, or what "diet" food they had for lunch.  Tonite a good friend was telling me how the ladies she works with seem obsessed with their weight and are frequently seeming to be trying to one-up one another with the 'I got into a size 6!!!" versus "Well *I* got into a size 6P!!!"  Now my friend is a slender gal herself...  I doubt she is envious but she sure gets sick of hearing about it. 

I asked her if these ladies were bariatric surgery patients and she said no, they are just obsessed with their cuteness ...  That has to be annoying. 

I'm thrilled to be in a size 20 and the occasional 18... and am looking forward to lower sizes.  I get the "skinny" comment, even got a "bikini this summer?" comment this weekend (must be MAD!)... I just grin because I FEEL SO GOOD.

Cindy

Thank you all for your comments--they have understand that my head has to catch up with my body and this is normal to feel this way.  Barbara it is like you said I do care about other people's feelings-but at the same time I should not be embarrased I should celebrate my accomplishments!  I will work on that.  Thanks again!!

Gina
I hear it all the time and most times it is * you are too thin* well I dont think so LOL yes people are OBSESSED with sizes.... I feel the same way you do about wanting to shout it out but dont worry.. your beautiful smile says it ALL Keep up the good work and come here anytime to brag away!!

Darcie

"Thanks, but I'm not skinny...where it counts anyway..."  BLAAAA HAA HAA HAA HAA!!!! 

Sorry, sorry...just had to.  I, in fact, have said this to a few "close friends" LOL LOL LOL!!

Jason

It all depends, if its a friend who knows me well, I usually say thanks and that "I'm getting there".  If its someone I dont care for, I usually just don't say anything, or if I really dont like them, I say "Gee, I didn't think you knew me well enough to know or notice that I had lost weight" (insinuating that they have a lot of nerve speaking to me now that I am thinner when they would not bid me the time of day when I was super heavy)...

 im not skinny yet but i am not as big as I was so when folks go dang is that really you. Better believe I am the first to admit it sure is. I am so proud of what has happened and I dont care if folks get an earful of it either. I have noticed that there is a certain amount of people that honestly are size motivated and I try not to fault them either mainly because its a well known fact that birds of a feather flock together. Its why us bariatric people are very cool with what we do. I do have a real want to talk to other obese people and just share what good it had done for me but I dont unless the book gets opened. I know a guy that I see and talk to on a regular basis at the coffee shop that is at least 4=500 pounds and to me he is just a regular guy and thats all it is. I would like to see him make a choice for a better situation but the way I see it it was my choice to have it done as it was his not to say he wanted it yet. About all you get out of me is a friendly thank you or some shrinking comment because people are just like that and are going to say such things like I did not recognize you or wow you look great or things of that nature. I am just crazy enough with the right person to tell them its just the drugs they took this morning playing tricks on them and I am the only thing that is abnormal about their lives and if they take that stuff again it will be permanent. Oddly enough I still see me as fat and I can feel bones. I think I can relate to anorexic people somewhat in that I understand why they see themselves as fat. I do most of the time but then I notice muscle that was not there or a bone poking out that was just a roll of jello and this face that scares me at times in the morning mirror. Just take it in stride that some folks will be positive about it others pretty much indifferent and still others will want to include you to their circles that you may not have been included in and its not a bad thing to join up if its what you want to do. Just my five dollars worth of typing. 

I have people tell me all of the time that I am "skinny" and that I am "too skinny" and the like.  It really makes me feel uncomfortable becuase I do not see myself as skinny.  I see myself as normal and the skinny comments make me crazy uncomfortable.  I can relate when you say that you tell people that you are not skinny because I do the same thing.  The first folks I noticed saying that to me were people who I had gotten skinner THAN..  and I suppose I was their token fat friend who always made them feel better about themselves.  (Harsh I know.. but true.. I lost friends when I lost weight..)  

It just takes our brains so long to catch up with our bodies.  I feel that I will never see myself as "skinny"..   and I also think I will never be able to appropriately handle the comments as well.  You are not crazy.  Trust me.. if you are, we all are.

Are you kidding me?? I LOVE IT! My husband always calls me skinny. SInce I've never been called skinny in my entire life I am loving every minute of it!  People that I haven't seen in a while hardly recognize me and when they do the expression on their face is so rewarding! Not to mention how much better I feel. That was my true goal of this whole journey, the compliments are an added bonus!! I just wish my parents were stil here to see me.