A WOW moment for me
I just got back from the Doc and they used the small (regular) blood pressure cuff!!!! Haven't seen that thing in years!!! Oh, and my official weight loss is 58.8lbs!! Whoo Hoo!!!!
I know I am losing weight for I can tell it in my clothes!! Everyone else around me can tell I am losing weight, but I just don't see it!! Why is that? Is it because our minds are conditioned to see us heavy? Yes I am still heavy but I just wish I could see what others see already!
My dr. told me to cut back o the cardio because my knees and feet are killing me. He told me to switch to water aerobics which is fine with me and to continue with the weight machines. Hopefully as the weight drops my knees and feet will handle things much better.
Disney was great this weekend. My son, mom, and I had a great time!
Wishing everyone a great weekend!!! Thanks to everyone on this board; I learn so much just from reading posts!
If anyone speaks badly of you, live so that none believe it!
Hey Pam,
Congratulations on your weight loss and being able to use a normal size BP cuff.
Re: being able to see the changes. If you haven't taken full body photos yet, please do. I promise it will help. I also would suggest that you go have some portraits done. They don't have to be expensive; Sears or Target will work, but the point it is to get a flattering view of yourself now that you have lost so much.
Secondly, and I think to a point this may be somewhat harder. I think that when we are big, we are really hard on ourselves to a certain extent, but we also shelter ourselves. By this I mean we focus on how we look from the chest or next up. We even avoid mirrors and photos that show our whole bodies and if we see a photo with our whole body, we can't BELIEVE that we're really THAT BIG. We are, but it's hard to reconsile. Soooo, I think that we 'see' ourselves somewhat smaller than we really are and as our bodies get to the size our minds eye sees us, we aren't seeing 'changes' that everyone else is seeing. I also think that at the same time, we are now looking at ourselves much more critically than we ever have in the past. I think that we tend to look now and see what we don't like and are hoping to change. I think we focus on those negatives a bit too much.
One of the things that I have done is go sit in the mall or a parking lot and look at other people. When I compare me to them, I'm average. Not perfect, but average. I think that we want so much to look GREAT and we have an unrealistic view of what great looks like. I know that I'm much, much more critical of myself and what I look like than I am of any of my friends and family.
Look at yourself as though you were a freind and were giving her feedback and write it down. I'll bet it will be so much more generous than you normally are with yourself.
Wishing you all the best and continued success,
Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145
Thanks for your insight! You always have the right perspective and I so enjoy reading your posts. I have taken before pics and monthly pics along with the measurements. And it is so true that I picture (see) myself smaller than I really am!!
I look forward to many more WOW moments in the future! I am at this point so glad that I chose to have this surgery. I know I have added many years to my life!
If anyone speaks badly of you, live so that none believe it!
I too am having a hard time with my self image catching up with reality. I am in need of size 18 pants...and when I look at them on the rack I just kinda smurk and think, "Yea, right! You can't wear those pants...look how small they are!" A far cry from the 30/32 I was wearing pre-surgery! But indeed that IS the size I need...perhaps we should all start taking a full length peek in the mirror once in a while! First, I guess I'll have to buy one...I've never owned one!
Hope you all have a great week...
