Update on Grandmother's funeral (long)

First off let me just say thanks to everyone *****sponded to my last thread about my grandmother's passing and my stress over my relationship issues with my father.  You guys are, as always, the best!

O.k., so I was stressing out all day Tuesday about seeing my dad at the funeral home Tuesday night but on the way there, a peace came over me and I felt like everything was going to be o.k.  When we got there, I greeted and hugged all my cousins and other family members that I haven't seen in years.  My dad was talking to a lady I didn't know so I didn't want to go up to him right away.  I waited till he was finished talking with her and when he turned around and saw me, we just went to each other and hugged for a long time.  No words were needed.  In fact, the first thing he said to me was "What are you doing getting so skinny??  Your face looks like a skeleton!"  He hasn't seen me since surgery so I guess he was kind of shocked!  I just laughed and said thanks.  Then he walked with me up to my grandmother's casket and we stood there looking at her and talking about old times we had all shared.  It was so nice and I left there feeling so much better!!!  Like a huge load had been lifted off my shoulders!

Unfortunately, I was not able to attend her funeral today due to my son having a seizure type attack at school today and they had to call an ambulance to take him to the ER.  He's o.k. but they have no idea what is going on with him as he has been having these types of attacks for a while now and all tests keep coming back normal.  They are going to refer him to a pediatric neurologist in Roanoke which is about 2 hours drive from here to see if they can find out what is causing these attacks.  But after we left the ER, we did go over to my dad's house for a little while and of course he understood why we couldn't make the funeral.  We chatted for a couple of hours and he invited us over for Christmas dinner.  So all in all, things went great except for Brandon getting sick.  I'll update more on that when we know more.

Thanks again for all the prayers and good thoughts.  They obviously worked!

It really is scary to think about meeting an estranged family member after a long time. As was demonstrated with you and your father its never as bad as we think it will be. Many times its actually pretty good. I don't see my father and I don't call him on the phone very often but I am planning to visit him within the next year. I hope it is more like your experience than what I am afraid it might be like in my head.

I'm so glad things worked out for you.  Most parents love their children unconditionally just like we love our own.  I'm sure he has missed you so much, but just didn't know how to approach the situation.  I hope things continue to go well.

 

Deborah

Hi Donna,

I'm so glad that things with your family went well. Please keep us posted about Brandon's condition.

Donna I am so glad things went well with your dad.  I prayed for you because I know what you were going through from personal experience.  I will continue to pray for you and your son.  Hopefully they will find out what is causing his attacks.

Amanda

Donna - I am so glad things went well for you and your dad.  I believe there is always an open door, we just have to have the courage to go thru it.

Please let us know how Brandon is doing.  When is his appt in Roanoke?

Shelia

Awww, Your post had me crying. I'm happy that everything went well with your dad.

So sorry about your son. Please keep us updated on how he is. My nephew had seizures like that and they couldn't find anything and now it has been over two years and no seizures!

Donna, I am so happy for you and your dad's reunion.  I am sure that it was a bitter sweet time with losing your grandmother, but I know that with a bit of give and take you can form a good relationship with him. 

Keep us in touch and let us know how things are going for you and for Brandon.  I will keep you and your family on my prayer list.  Especially Brandon.

Hugs,