OT: I need prayers and supportive thoughts. . .

 My grandmother passed away this morning (Dad's mom). She has been ill and in and out of the hospital for the past couple of years so this wasn't a huge surprise or anything.  

The problem is this ~ I haven't spoken to my Dad in over a year.  I have always respected my Dad but chose to cut ties with him due to many issues we just couldn't see eye to eye on.  In a nutshell, I guess I just finally got tired of trying to always earn his approval to no avail.

Anyway, my brother called and gave me the news.  I haven't heard anything about the arrangements yet, but this is going to be a very difficult time for me having to face my father.  I was not very close to my grandmother and her passing has not devastated me, but the stress I'm feeling in having to face my Dad for the first time in so long is already starting to get to me.  I'm hoping things will go as well as they can given our issues.  I talked to my step-mom yesterday and needless to say, our conversation wasn't very pleasant. So please keep me and my family in your thoughts and prayers. I have a feeling we are going to need all we can get in the coming week.  I really appreciate it.

Hugs,
Donna

Hi Donna,
I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother.  I'm sure that Even thought it was no surprise, somehow that doesn't make it much easier at this time and everyone needs love and prayers at a time like this.

I think you should pray really hard on the issue with your father. Just remember, there are plenty of parents and children that don't see eye to eye on things. You have to accept this in each other and move on to some things you have in common and then build on that. Our love for our families is unconditional and that's the way it should be. Sometimes though, we don't like them very much and that is ok too.  I think with some special prayers, you can ease this burden you're carrying and be able to cope with the situation. I'll be praying very hard for this for you.

HUGS
Pam

Donna,  I am sorry for your loss.  Even though you were not close it is still a great loss.  I think that it is not uncommon for adult children and their parents to have some issues. My mom and I have agreed to disagree on many things, and occasionally I get my feelings hurt, but we move on.  My dad died when I was 17and I still miss him, although we would have had issues also, I like to think we could have remained close.  We only have one dad and I am sorry you and yours are unable to connect.  I will definitely keep you and the rest of your family in my prayers, not only for the comfort in your time of loss but a healing of your relationships.  God Bless you.

Donna I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your Grandmother and please know you and the family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Donna,

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. As you are a parent yourself, you must know that even though you and your father do not see 'eye to eye' on many issues, that no matter what, he loves you, as I'm sure that you love him. It is not necessary to clear the air or settle differences. You are going to show your love and respect for your grandmother, father and extended family. You only need to do that; if things start to get uncomfortable, you can let your father and/or any other family know that you are there to pay your respects and would rather not discuss other issues at this time, then if in your best interests, quietly and respectfully excuse yourself so that you do not incur personal damage.

Wishing you all the best,

Donna,
I agree with how Barbara says to handle it but I would also add, since it seems to be hurting you inside, that lastly you wanted him to know that even though you all have your issues, that he is your dad and no matter who is right or wrong you want him to know that you DO love him and to remember that in the end it is the only thing that is really important.  Good luck Dear and all our prayers are with you..

I am so sorry to hear of your loss {{{hugs}}}

Please ask God to show you why he loves your Father. Also ask that your Father be shown why Our Lord loves you. If you can get to that spiritual place, Maybe you will both be granted the Peace you so badly need from each other.

Donna,
I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs
Jane