I don't want to be in the "single digits" clothing...

I was at the meeting this weekend and listened to something Barbara said about hoping that she sees us "all in single digit clothing".  That got me to thinking, Do I really want to be in single digit clothes?  That has never been my goal at all, in fact single digit clothes are not the reason at all I decided to have my surgery.  Now while I am sure that Barbara meant well : ) single digits are not for everyone. 

I am 5'9, I decided to have this surgery for me to be an overall healthy person.  I just want to end up at a healthy weight, whatever size that happens to be.  I love me for me already.  I don't look in the mirror and find myself digusting what I see is a very happy person.  I see a person who has her crap together.  I see someone who is working full time going to school part time and nuturing a very new marraige.  These are the things that make me happy, now while I love to see the scale going down for once,  I have to say that I have always been a very happy person.  I don't care what size I end up being as long as I am happy and healthy!

I hope that this helps someone else questioning what you want to be.  Be who you are now, just healthier!

Mandy.........I love your act!  You really seem to have it together!    It's true, not everyone would look good as a single digit, especially at 5'9.  For US  5'3's though,  a single digit is more realistic, Even without that, I'm just happy I'm off all my meds and am a lot healthier,active and positive than I was before this! Best of luck to you......hope you're loving your band!

Nancy

You make a very good point Mandy.  Thanks for sharing it.

hey surgery buddy! nice post!  i definatly see where ur coming from! im 5'9 as well so sizes are different for us...  when i was a size 12 ( a long time ago..lol)  i was "skinny".. or atleast thats what everyone said.. when i had got down to a 10 people were like "omg! stop loosing weight! uve lost enough!"      but yet someone that is like 5"3 a 6-8 would be like our 12 if that makes sense..lol                   im glad to see that u are happy!  we definatly need to get together sometime!  u are only like 3 hours ish away.. we could meet somewhere in the middle!

To be happy with yourself is worth its weight in gold.
Me on the other hand who is short have a desire to wear single digit clothing it is something I have never done and would like to have the experince of it.
I bought some small sweats yesterday and they are still in the bag LOL
I will wear them tomorrow have to work today.
Looking forward to seeing you and Robert this weekend.
                                                  Annie

I am TOTALLY with you 110% on this one!!! There is NO WAY i could see myself looking healthy in a size 9 or under...ICK!! Not for my body type!! I too am 5'9'' and large bone!! Once in my life, I think I was a size 12 and I was plenty skinny enough!! I am in a 18/20 right now and my biggest fear is being able to maintain my ideal weight!!! My goal weight is 162lbs. not sure what yours is, but to me that is realistic and "healthy" :)
Thanks for this post!! You are not alone!!
JAMI

Thanks Ladies!!  I agree height plays a huge part, someone who is 5'3 doesn't need to be in the same size as someone who is 5'9.  I too would be "skinny" in a size 12!!  Jaimee, I would love to meetup sometime.  I emailed you my email address and phone number, let me know and we can see about picking a time. 

Thanks for listening, just wanted to share this!

I am 5foot 2. I weigh 100lbs. I have to buy my clothes in the kids department. I can't wear anything from the jr or women's department. Do I look sick. Yes I look like death walking. But in my deamon head I still see the fat woman. I am 3 years out and struggle everyday of my life to keep living. You have the right set of mind. Be healthy. I didn't care back then about health I cared more about looks. I am single and thought I would get a man with money and live my fairy tail. Boy did that blow up in my face. Keep being happy with yourself. You are doing a wonderful thing.

Amy

I am one of the short people they wrote that song about LOL! For me I don't know where I will end up but I do know that I just want to be able to live my life in the world as it is and not have to use adjusters to fit into it. Technically I am finally there again but not everywhere we go yet. I am also happy that I have no need for quite a few meds I had to take before my surgery. I will find the size for me when I get there. I am now almost down to my last post pregnancy weight.

Hi Mandy,

I want to apologize for offending you in any way, shape or form. I don't care what size you are or get to be. Like you, I decided to have the surgery for health reasons, not vanity and like yo, I already liked me. I didn't look in the mirror and find myself disgusting ... Like you, I dressed well and I was generally pretty happy with the person I was. I honestly never thought that I would wear a single digit size. When I did my workup for Duke they asked 'what size' I'd like to be and I thought that my 'dream size' would be a 10, but that I'd be delighted to be a 12 or 14 and I was. Now I wear a size 4, 6 or 8 depending on who makes it and how it's cut. Believe it or not, it's almost as hard to find those sizes as it is to find plus sizes ;-) I didn't even think in terms of single digit sizes because that's not how I envisioned myself. When we start this journey we don't know where we'll end up and to be honest there are trade-offs.

I want you to know that I don't even recall saying that I hope that you would all be in single digit sizes, but I'm sure I must have since you recall it... I guess what I really meant to say, is that I hope to be seeing 'less of you.' I will try to be more careful about what I say and how it might make someone feel.

Again, please accept my apologies.

Barbara