OT: I may have a date (long)

That's right a date with a fella...!!!!.....????.You guys were the first folks that I thought about sharing this with - I may be starting to date. It's been a long time and I'm pretty apprehensive about it - but what the hell. My self-confidence is pretty good and I feel great. At the very worst it'll be a nice evening out of the house.

It's sort of a blind date thing - his Mom is a very close friend of one of my favorite Aunts. He also has a Great Dane so that has been our common ground when we talk. He's recently divorced. He also has horses and suggested that we go riding. (I've never had a desire to ride a horse in my life as they have no gas or brake pedal - I was a dirt bike kinda girl) But I told him that I would be willing to give it a try one day. He likes a lot of the same redneck stuff that I do. Most importantly he doesn;t seem to be intimidated by the thought of my teen age mafia that he may face (if the dogs approve - then he meets the sons).

He knows about my surgery and when we talked today he asked lots of really good questions about it. He's in the construction trade and there hasn't been a lot of that going on in this area lately so I've told him that I'm a really cheap date (lol) so going out to dinner would pretty much be a waste of money. It sorta took the heaviness out of the situation and left a perfect opening to discuss ways to spend time together that didn't revolve around food. So there are ideas of mud trucks, tractor pulls and football games being tossed around. He's got plans on Saturday or I was going to suggest the zoo. (Gotta get Annie's approval on this guy).

I've been out of the dating loop long enough that I don;t think I'll make a poor decision based on being lonely. Plus my 2 guys are Moma's boys so they'll grill the poor guy to death. What do yall think I need to keep in mind? Dating is a scary place to be in one's life. It's a gray area. I do pretty well with black and white areas - but gray areas?????

He's really easy to talk to. I have no clue what he looks like. I do know he's a Moma's boy and he goes to church on a very regular basis (common beliefs are a requirement for anyone I'd date) What's really weird is he goes to the same church that my Father-in-Law used to pastor and was the whole reason that I met my husband.

I'll post later this week when we decide if and when we're going out.

- Iris the Nervous.

That's Great!
I say go for it..what do you have to lose??

But you have to tell us all the details!! 

good luck...kelly

Have a great time!!!!!!!!!
Myrtis

WooHoo! Can't wait  to see how it goes! I am also out of the dating pool, so maybe one day I'll give it another try also!

Good luck!

Cindy

Iris - How exciting!  I say you definitely need to go for it.  Keep us posted on how it turns out. 

Good Luck and Have Fun.

Rahsheeda

Hi Iris,

I don't think you have a thing in the world to lose. It sounds like you are building a friendship and that's the basis for any good relationship anyway. As you said, you don't know what he looks like, and while we might be 'attracted' to one thing or another, we of all people know that looks are only the veneer. It sound like you are getting to know the real person which will hold you in good stead. It also sounds like things are moving along at a relatively gentle pace, which can only be a good thing.

Trust your gut instincts in relation to determining his character, as you know that's what's really going to make or break a relationship in the long run. If you haven't done so in a long time, it might be a good time to take inventory of just what it is you are looking for in a relationship. What would make you really happy, then refer to that now and then to make sure that this relationship is fitting the bill.

I wish you every happiness as you explore this new, exciting phase of your new life.

All the best,

Barb

Sounds like a great one to make that leap with.  Go for it if it feels right!  

I can't imagine being in your situation...  I've been married since I was 18 and had been dating him since age 16, so I've been with Ronnie most of my life. 

Have fun and keep us posted!  Alice

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