x-post: Help! I don't know what to do now! (LONG)

So sorry to hear about your sister, sisters are a wonderful thing!  I dont know what I would do without mine...... I had colon cancer 5 years ago, mine was advanced and already in my limp nodes and sounds like about the same place yours sisters is (in the decending colon) . I had surgery and 6 months of chemo.... I was released from my cancer doc last december and am now cancer free and going to have WLS!......... colon cancer spreads slowly and i was diagnosed in  sept. and didnt have my surgery until nov. so depending on your surgery type you may have time to get mostly over your surgery... ?.. also she won't start chemo until at least 6 weeks after the surgery... to let her body heal....talk to her doctor with her and maybe they can help out to plan what to expect and what you could do?...like someone else said in a earlier post... colon cancer is curable these days and it may not be as bad as you think it is going to be. I  will keep you and her in my prayers.. believe me I know this is a scary time....feel free to PM me is you want.....~Mary~

Lisa I am sorry to hear about your sister, as someone who has lost a family member to lung cancer I can understand your delimma.  I put my life on hold to take care of my mother while she was batteing cancer.  I have no regrets for that but it might be a good idea to just take it one day at a time and see what kind of treatment she has to go through.  I know several people who have had colon cancer and did treatment and are survivors.  You are both in my prayers.

I'm so sorry to hear about your sister.  And I know how it feels to be doing something so important and then have something else so important happen.  Just like everyone though, I think you should stay the course of action you are on now until you hear more and even then I would stay the course at least until you get an approval.  Once approved, you can move the date as you need to. Take care of you while you're taking care of your sister.  All my best to you and your sister.   *Terri

Hey, I am sorry you are having so much to go through during this time when you need to get your WLS scheduled.  But I have to agree with the others who have posted, you need to just take things one at a time and talk things over with your doctor and your sister.  I am an only child and have been helping my Mom take care of her household and finances, etc. due to her age and health.  It turned out that the very day after my surgery was set; her doctor set her up for an amputation surgery in the same hospital.  At first I did not know what to do, just like you.  But I decided it would not do either of us any good it I did not do whatever I could to improve my own health.  So I continued with my surgery plans.  Other than driving on a couple of occassions before my time limit was up due to Mother emergencies and having problems getting back into a normal exercise routine due to being back and forth on the road to the hospital, I had no regrets about my decision.  While you are on full liquids following surgery, that diet is readily portable.  Once you graduate to soft foods it takes a little more planning.  But it will be worth it for you to have your health and energy restored as well as being able to be with your sister.   Best of luck and you will be in our prayers.  Blessings, Linda N.