Frustrated and Discouraged

Okay so this has been a very frustrating  couple of weeks for me, and I don't know what to do.   Here's the deal ~ My weight has been bouncing between 3 lbs every day, one day I'm 3 lbs down the next 3 lbs up 2lbs 1 lb I just don't seem to be loosing any weight at all.  I can't figure out why.  I really am starting to worry about this.  I feel like I'm stuck in a rut and it just isn't changing for me.  I'm getting in my excercise, liquids, eating what I should be eating,  I'm just getting so discouraged at this point and wondering if I have done something to my pouch or if this is just it, no more loosing for me.  I'm no where near where I need to be I still have a long way to go as I'm only 4 months out and have lost a total of 62 lb as of today and tommorow I could be up 1 2 or 3 lbs.   Anyone have this problem, and if so what the heck do I do?  HELP! 

Its part of it.  It shows how much our weight controls our mental well being.  Patience Grasshopper!  Don't beat yourself up.  Everyone goes through it for the most part.  I went for almost 2 months it seems fighting just a few pounds up down.  2 MONTHS! just after my 6 month checkup.  It happens and it is discouraging but it is just a rest stop nothing more.  I am a slow loser and now a very slow loser but you know what, I am so happy I did this, slow or not.  Your mentally now like a kid on a trip from New York to Disney Florida and GranMa is with you.  Now she wants to stop for lunch, take a long bathroom break and maybe stop in this historic town and see the old houses and all you want to do is get to Disney.  Well you can't leave GranMa and theres not much you can do about your losing cause your body needs a break too.  You have got to wrap your brain around the fact that it will start again, I promise!  It may be tomorrow or it may be a week from now.  I find now that I go up and down 3 pounds than the 2nd day into my period I drop those 3 and and a few more that week and the process repeats.  Of course it could be something else like maybe to much sodium and water weight but the fact is your going to be ok.  True example!!! this morning at 7am I weighed 156!!  All of a sudden after halfway thru my coffee I have to run to the bathroom.  Yep last nights salad and shrimp has things moving.  Not once but oh my twice.  Well, since we are so open on here,  I figured well I just know I flushed away at least another pound.  Here it is just a few hours later and I went to the same scale, same position on the floor and I am up 3!!! pounds, what the hell.  So do I mental ruin my day cause I figure there isn't no way my body grab three pounds from out of nowhere espically since I got on and off the scale a few times at 7 just to make sure it really read 156, or do I accept its just part of my old mental fat self afraid I am failing and gaining it back.  I know now that is what it is and I will not except it.  Leave those scales alone for awhile and the mental thought You are in a rut.  You are just taking a breather, a rest stop.  You will start again but only when your body is ready.  Keep doing what you are doing.  Your doing great!!!  Work on calming your brain, staying positive.  Don't ruin your day because your beautiful and a Looser and and your going to keep losing more!!!  I promise!

Lynn, I love your example of Grandma LOL well said and makes so much sense. Trying to keep our thoughts on the right track and staying positive is not easy sometrimes. I went ahead and posted I lost just a pound this week would have liked to seen more come off but my goodness I have to look at how far I have come and how wonderful I feel. I am amazed at all the things I am able to do. This morning I thought well if I dont make it to 200lbs at least I am healthier than I have even been and can do so many things I havent been able to do.                                                 Annie

Donna: I agree with Lynn....you are doing fine. I have had at least 4 times during the process where for a period of three weeks and then the last time 4 weeks I only lost 1 pound per week so in a 13 week period I lost 13 pounds. Some of these  3 week jaunts were quite early out as well when I thought I should be dropping faster. It was frustrating to me at the time as well. But, in the long run it all balances out if that makes sense. Your loss has been great so far and you are not done. Just relax and pay attention to keep doing what you are and it will happen when it happens. I know we want it off sooner than later but it is more important to keep with the healthier life style and have long term success! Just keep that in mind....for the long haul. Be patient and it will all work out. Lisa

Hi Donna, Gosh, do I know how you feel!  I finally had to put the scale up.  I only weigh once a month.  Please don't let the scale drive you crazy.  Many blessings, Diane

I to have had a bad couple of weeks. I only weigh myself once a week, Saturday. The past three Saturdays I only lost 2 lbs total( 1 per week with one week being none). Today When I stepped on the scale I still weighed 215. No weight loss this week either. Discouraged I had decided 2 weeks ago to step up my game. I started writing down all food consumption(calories, and protein grams). I also kept up with my workouts. What has happened? At first I almost cried. Then I took a look at a couple of old photos compared to recent ones. That made me feel alot better. I went to the Y and did the Eliptical 2 miles(325 calories burned, 30 min), and road the bike12 miles(300 calories burned, 35 min). I was like, Wow, I could have never done this before. I feel great! Don't get frustrated or discouraged. I know its real hard not to, I'm with you on that. Hopefully everyone is right about the stalls. We've come a long way so far. I never thought I would be able to say I've lost more weight than I still have to loose. Hang in there. Peace, Karla

I know exactly how you feel. I keep having "stalls" but I got enlightened a bit at my last appt. I'd drop to a new weight - lets say 220 (cause this one sucked) then I will gain for a few days (went to 226!) then itll slowly drop back to 220 and the next day I'll drop to 218. THe next morning? Yep 221... wash, rinse, repeat. Very annoying! But - I kept flipping out "OMG IM STALLED HELP ME (in my mind mostly) and when I went in for my 3 month check my surgeon's PA said "so you've lost 17 lbs since the last time you were here.." I was like uh? I have? It didn't SEEM like I had lost anything because of the bouncing but sure enough its whittling itself off. I spose if I was a weekly weigher instead of a daily I may not have even noticed the bouncies, but I am OCD about the scale.

STOP GETTING ON THE SCALE EVERY DAY! It seriously helped me - I set a day to do my weigh-in once a week and I stick rigidly to it.   The daily weigh in was fun for the first month - but now that things are slowing down and your body is starting to adjust, take things in stride for the long term. My thoughts anyway.  We had surgery the same time - and 62 pounds is fantastic! Nikki

Hey Miss Donna...  I do agree about stop weighing all the time.  That will only mess with your mind.  Also I agree with everyone about....this too shall pass.  I have had one major stall.  it was a couple weeks ago and I lost maybe 2 pounds in 3 weeks.  I was freaking out!!  BUT...  a friend of mine that had this surgey last summer assured me that it was "OK".  So... I gathered up my boot straps and kept on keepin on.  Then yep...like something weird...I lost 6 pounds in the next couple of days.  Just weird!!  so you hang in there Donna and you will get over this hump.   Hugs to you!!  62 pounds is great!!!!  Congrats!!   Connie

Aww Donna.. I am sorry you are struggling.  If you want to talk to someone, please call me.  I have not been to our montly support group meetings lately, but I think of you guys often.  Maybe we can do lunch this weekend and go Goodwill Shopping!!