EMOTIONAL BREAKDOWNS.......

Barb, Sorry I didn't respond sooner, I didn't see your post until now.  Thank you for the welcome! I've been lurking here since we moved to NC at the end of November, So I don't know if I've post in this forum before or not. But this thread drew me in enought to respond because it is something I'm dealing with right now. And if someone else (like you) is dealing with the same thing we can help support each other knowing we are not alone. And I too fear the bounce-back weight. I of course have failed at every weight loss attempt I have ever made. And that darn devil on my shoulder keeps telling me this time won't be any different. But like you I am combating it by going to support group, meeting with my NUT as often as I should, coming to OH seeking and giving support, logging my food, exercising, etc No matter what that devil tells me, I know in my heart this time is different. This time losing weight and keeping it off is obtainable and not just a dream.  Thank you for your kind words and again for your warm welcome! Andi

Thanks Andi.  

When I speak at the seminars DrMelkonian and Lowe have people will come up and ask me similar questions to that - many people post-op go thru a food mourning stage and/or breakdown stages - I have seen people go thru them. I think in many cases people are not prepared mentally for the surgery, the surgeons can fix the plumbing but they cannot fix the brain - thats up to you. People start the process, rush thru it to surgery and then dont know what to do with their feelings/emotions. Many people hide a lot of bad memories in their fat and/or use the food to medicate whatever issues you have. You take away their 'drug' (food) and their security blanket (their fat) and they just dont know what to do. Personally I never had a breakdown. However, I knew about this surgery 5 years before I had it... I have many close friends that went thru it and saw the challenges they faced (a surgery failure and cross addictions) I went to therapy for 1+ years before surgery and spent a lot of time working on my own issues. I was pretty much prepared for surgery and what changes it would bring, many arnt.