EMOTIONAL BREAKDOWNS.......

HAS ANYONE HAD THEM.  My friend who is 9 months out, asked me the other day have I had an emotional breakdown yet?  I said, "NO".  She couldn't believe it.  She told me to take a long look in the mirror at myself, and basically focus on how I used to look and how I look now. Am I strange or what for not having my breakdown yet?

What breakdown is she looking for? I'm almost 3 months out and I haven't had one either. I actually spend more time looking in the mirror now. It's really the only way I can see a difference. Now I'm sure I might do a freak out once my skin really starts to sag, but I'm prepared for that. I know that's just par for the course and that's what plastic surgery is for. I'm doing all I can now to prevent that by going to the gym and working with a trainer. The rest is up to God. Enjoy the new you!

Thanks for your response.  And exactly, "It's in God's hands".

Sounds to me that your friend may have actually been talking about herself and not you.   If a friend asked me that, I'd ask for clarification about her question: what type of emotional breakdown did she go through, was it a "breakdown" or just feeling a little emotional about the changes, did she need help while she was going through that time, is she concerned about my ability to take on these changes, what emotional processes does she think are normal to go through, at what point would she suggest getting a little assistance, did she feel she had all the support she needed going into her WLS (e.g., was I a good friend while she was struggling?), etc. Of course, all my friends are accustomed to conversations like that and would never expect me to just take their word for it that having a "breakdown" is normal!  Nor would they let me get away with asking something like that without putting me through my paces! If you think you'd like to know more, you could always bring it up and ask her.

Its a distant friend.  We reunited months  after her surgery and before mine.  I asked for clarification and she stated, "the dramatic changes you and your body go through".  Note that she says she has quite a bit of excess skin.  She is 9 1/2 months out and 140-150 lbs down and obsessed with exercise.

No two people are going to react the same way to this surgery.  I did not have a "breakdown" but I know others that did.  It's not a given that you will have a crisis over this and it's not cool that she tried to make you feel abnormal about it.  I would suggest that she was feeling insecure because you aren't having the same emotional issues she is and is trying to justify herself by making you feel the same way. In any event, you're doing great.  Keep chugging along. Take care. Ellen

Thank you so much Ellen. I think that is the response I needed to hear. I was feeling that way;  just wanted to explain it to ya'll to see what you all thought without me putting in my personal thought about it.  And look at you..................WOOOOOOOHOOOOOO!!!!  You look awesome!  Dana

I did after surgery for about 4 weeks but then again I'm crazy anyway.  Actually I have Bi-Polar disorder and the flippin people at the hospital had me off meds for 4 days.  Then it took 4 weeks to build them back up.  I think she meant that SHE is the one having the breakdowns and was wondering if you went through the same thing.  Hope you get this resolved soon.

Yeah, I know that what she meant but what she said to me is what had me thinking, "am I supposed to be having these breakdowns too".

I have had some hard emotional times.. but I would not call them "breakdowns".  I have mourned the loss of food... got over it.  Mourned the loss of skin tone... got over it.  I haven't really had a breakdown.  There is a whirlwind of change, but it is good change.