15 Days to go and now I'm scared!

Okay! I'am now offically SCARED!  I have my pre-op appointment this morning, and I think that it all just hit me.  From The time I got my date I have been totally fine, no nervousness, not scared, no anxiety, but now WOW it's really it's going to happen and I'm scared ****less (sorry about that)   I don't know what to do now, I know Dr. B is going to tell me what he want's me to do and what I need to do, But I don't know what to do, I know that dosen't make any sense, but I think now it is all finally becoming a reality!  My life is about to change forever and in more ways than one, I know the changes will all be good ones, and they will surely be worth it, But how the heck can I not be scared?  Right now my anxiety level is sooooo high, I just need to get past today, then I'll need to get past November 27th, If I can do that I think I will be just fine.   I'm sorry for rambling on!

Donna -

Only you know if you are ready to do this. If you aren't, then it's more than okay to say you need to wait. I would talk with your Dr. about your fears and concerns. I think that most of us have a point when it "becomes real" and scary for us. Not only do we have to worry about complications, but we are about to surrender a "friend" that we're not so sure we can live without. When this happened to me, and I assure you it did, I looked at my reasons for pursuing this surgery ... the likelyhood I could/would lose the weight without it, the likelyhood of complications (yes, including an early death) if I didn't do it. When I looked at everything, for me, it was worth proceeding.

Soooo.... If you want to know if it's normal to get cold feet, it is. But you also need to be sure that you are ready to do it. If not, it's okay.

Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you.

All the best,

Barb

Dr B is no nonsense, you don't want to tell him your scared because he will simply tell you to cancel your surgery.  He's really not a touchy feely people person at all.

I was scared right up until they put me to sleep, I never told anyone but I was scared.  Guess what, It was a wonderful experience,  I woke from surgery and I didn't feel like i had surgery.  It was a great experience.  Because your not going in sick, you don't hve that disadvantage against you.  It's like when you go to the hospital to have a baby, except this time you will loose weight instead of bringing home another person.

PM if I can help.  I just advise do not get touchy feely because he will not treat that with open arms.

The 27th will be here before you know it.  I coudln't stop thinking about my surgery 24/7 everything focused on it.  Pre op I got a migraine so it helped with the stuff you have to drink because i was sick before and could hardly eat.  I know you have the challenge of thanksgiving before surgery so be careful and don't gain or else he will cancel your surgery.  I know one more stress you need.

Hey Girl, It is very normal to be scared. Your date is approaching very fast and before you know it you will be on the loser bench. Do everything they tell you to and you will do GREAT.

The anesthesiologists will give you something to relax you on the day of your surgery. Dr. B will not cancel your surgery if you tell him your scared. He is a no nonsense doctor but wants you to not gain weight before the surgery and to follow the rules he and your nut gives you. YOU can and should be able to talk to him about all of your concerns.  My date is Dec 5th and I am scared too, but I am not going to let that stop me from moving forward. I will talk to them about it at my preop appointment though. Very natural to be nervous. Good Luck!!!!!

Well I made it through all the pre op stuff with Dr. B and the hospital.  I actually found that I really had no reason to be as nervous as I was, Now if I can think that way on November 27th I'll be ok.  LOL   I absoulutley love Dr. B.  I even got him to laugh a little bit, which from what I understand does not happen too often, I guess he found some humor in some of the things I had to say today  The good news is I lost 8 lbs since I last saw Dr. B and he did tell me that he wants me to loose more weight before my surgery, if I don't he will cancel it. My husband asked him how  much he wanted me to loose, "4 LBS"  can you believe that, I feel so lucky, I was actually shocked  Dr. B. Said "ya wanna do 20" nope I'll take the 4 lbs and anything that follows will just be a bonus.   So anyway my pre op visit was a good one, I now have to get myself ready for surgery, I feel like I have so much to do yet so little time.  LOL  One thing is for sure both my husband and I have a lot of confidence in Dr. B  I'm very comfortable with him and feel luck that I found him.  Thank you all so much for your encourgment!

If you didn't have some worry about the surgery....You would not be human. This is a life altering change. I just got my date ...about a week after you and I am happy but still it pops up in my head.....what am I going to do to my body.  But look what I have already done to my body for 53 years. It is the right choice for me and yes I have fears. Lets go for it!!!!!! Good luck Myrtis

Thanks Myrtis, and Congrtaulations to you on your date.  I say let's go for it to! after all we are talking about our health! Best of luck to you!