Struggling. . .

just remember, God answers prayers. we just might not always like the answer OR it's in HIS time, not ours. he's working for ya, and how it turns out was exactly what he expected and planned for. also, God will never give you more than you can handle. you might feel overwhelmed right now, but He knows you can handle this, so have faith in yourself!

((((Donna))))  - well, everyone else has said basically what I would tell you.  You are in a valley right now, but you will be on top of the mountain soon, in God's time.  It is really hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when you are feeling down and depressed.  Just "listen" to all the great advise and feel the love coming right through your computer screen from all the great people here on this board.  Your surgery is working, just look what you have accomplished already, take it slowly and you'll be fine!  Lots of Love, Alice 

I think you are doing great inspite of your cir****tances. Anybody would be having a rough time in your situtation... dealing with the surgery on top of that is a lot!! Back in August the company I worked for came in on a Monday and announced they were closing Friday and we would lose our severance, our benefits and we wernt getting out last paycheck. It was a lot to deal with at once... I am much further out from surgery and I know dealing with watching what I ate and all that jazz was the last thing on my mind. But I knew that I had to keep control of what I could and just let God handle what was out of my hands. Previously in my life when things went downhill I would do things to almost add to it making the situtation worst... boy did I learn. Have you read The Secret? Personally its a little farfetched for me but the basic idea is a great one.. you get back what you put out and it talks about the power of positive thinking. Its something Ill flip thru now and then to help me thru rough patches. Id swing by the library and check it out... or I could send you my copy so you could read it (Ill pay the postage!).  Just know that this is just a rough patch and you will get thru it... everything will work out eventually and things can only get better!

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Everyone basically said what I would say, keep your chin up and best wishes to you


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((((((((((((((Donna)))))))))))) Praying for you right now. Please know we are here if you need us. Contact me anytime.

Donna~  GIRL~  You are SO NOT A FAILURE at this wls thing!  You have lost over 60 pounds and that is fantastic!!!!  I know there are times in our lives when we all feel like failures.  And to be honest.. I have been having BIG ISSUES with dealing wtih these emotions.  I can't cover them up with food anymore.  I have to deal with stuff and that is painful.  It certainly used to be easy to cover up anger, frustration or sadness with a Snickers Bar.  (or two.. or three.. LOL) Just keep your chin up.  Anytime you feel like a failure just look at those new ROCKING pictures that you have posted!  You look like a different person!!!

Things will get better. I think you are mourning the loss of your best friend, food.  You can no longer turn to food when life treats you wrong.  This is very difficult.  You've done some amazing things for yourself. I don't  want to dwell or rewrite what others have written, but my life keeps changing literally over night.  I had a job I hated, within 3 weeks I no longer had that job.   I've had serious complications from my WLS and I have been hosptialized, I never had the support of my extended family, but we got through it.  This was the only time I regretted my WLS.  I felt like I caused myself to have these complications because I had this surgery.   We are not bad people, we are human.  I can recommend Body Clutter which is part of the Fly Lady series.  Your life will change, it just takes patience. Maybe you need a big hug or wet sloppy dog kiss.  Good Luck, it cannot get any worse.  In the event you feel depressed, get help, I'm sure there is someone out there who can help you with this piece too.  This is normal.

((((((((Donna)))))))))

I'm so sorry that you are having such a hard time. You have a lot to deal with. To be honest, I can't imagine anyone that wouldn't be suffering from depression with the load you are carrying. On the other hand, you are reaching out ... and from what I can see on the board, we're all here to support you.

I think that in the long run you will probably be glad that you had the surgery. I doubt that you'll gain any weight over this difficult time and I imagine that you will learn new coping mechanisms.

In the meantime, I'll pm you my personal contact information. Please do continue to reach out for support.

We are here for you.

Keeping you in thought and prayer,

Barb

I am so sorry that you are going through all of this stuff.  It has to get better.  Please vent any time you need to.  That is what we are here for, the good times and the bad.  I want to send you lots of love....