Last Supper Syndrome.... Help!

Hi folks,  I am in the "holding pattern" waiting for the decision visit and get insurance approval.  It's taking forever to get to the next step.  All the while I feel like I'm eating like I will never have another meal.  I read about this and wondered if any of you on the Losers Bench could tell me if you have this problem and how you dealt with it.  I don't want to gain more weight before surgery.  I really would love to lose a few pounds.... 

 What you are describing is quite common. Here is my personal experience and preceptive....I opted out of several offers from friends and family for "last suppers" At the point of my surgery, I felt there was NOTHING in this world that I had not ALREADY tasted and food had become an enemy, although I had previously used it for comfort and as a companion. I had changed my mind set and said enough! All my previous suppers have created this morbid obesity and its time for a change!!! I did have passing thoughts of "But this might be your last chance for those M&M's, or dessert or a bigger piece of steak"- BUT, for me, it was time to address that mental dialogue head on and change my ways.....The head demons are tough..... I actively had to change that dialogue in my head- one mantra that helped "I deserve to be fit and healthy", thus I do not need to eat this.....OMG- I repeated that for 2 full months! It did and still does help..... Good luck with the battle! Sheila

Thanks and what you say makes a lot of sense.  This past week I made a list of behaviors I needed to work on and I check off the ones I worked on each day.  I've never been very good at keeping logs of what I eat or exercise but I wanted to try this to see if I can go on and get a head start.   Seeing the progress of folks on the boards is very encouraging to me and it makes me even more impatient to get the surgery date set.  Thanks again for the reply!  Alice

I am current;y doing the same exact thing!  It's good to know I'm not the only one!  I keep seeing things in the grocery store and I'm like "I'll never get to have those again!"

It's nice to see from some of the folks who have already lost all or most of their weight, that yes, we will be able to have our favorite foods again, sometime in the distant future, but in moderation. 

I am right there with you guys, that bowl of chocolate ice cream was calling to me like a friend as I drive off into the sunset... sigh Talk about dysfunctional relationships LOL

I experienced the same phenomenon.  Most of us do.  I lost about 15-20 lbs of the pre-op low-carb diet, so my "last supper" anxiety was before that began.  I just told myself that it wasn't forever.  That after I have learned how to use this tool, and am able to tolerate all foods IN MODERATION I will be able to taste and enjoy them again.  I spent my whole life in deprivation and guilt for eating this or wanting that or for being so fat.  My nutritionist agrees that this is not a diet we are on, but a lifestyle change.  I cannot allow those food demons to rule me into being fearful of them any more.  Someday I WILL eat some of that candy bar.  But not often.

Very well said Suzanne! I agree- this is not a diet- it  is a choice for a lifestyle change with an incredible tool that aids the journey. I think everyone of us has our own "head struggles"...... For me- it was and is a matter of changing that negative dialogue.....we all deserve improved health and fitness and we have to work hard to achieve it. I know being on OH and reading others struggles/strengths and new found insights has proven INVALUABLE to me....it's helped me change some of the "stinking thinking".... Sheila

I did the exact same thing.  I can remember saying to my neighbor Christy, "Oh, if I could just have one more hamburger."  And she offered to go get me one!  I said, "oh no, it was just a thought, I'm through with hamburgers."  I woke up every day like I was starving for food, the weeks before surgery.  I am done with that forever!!! Hugs, Dianef

Thanks for all the great feedback.  I am grateful to have all of you who have traveled this path before me to answer questions and share your experience.  I will try hard today to work on controlling the urges.....  one day at a time!