crack head

If I get called a crack head one more time I am going off on some one......Had a man I never seen before in my life wanted to trade me sex for crack. I told him crack would kill my little ass. Then the same thing happen the next day. I get called a crack head almost 3 ot 4 times a week. I am 43 years old. Even women will say she looks like a crack head......what the hell.............

Sweetie, it's because you are so thin that people are saying that.  Also because they are ignorant.  But if you need something to motivate you to start eating some and putting on the weight you need to put on for your health and wellbeing, perhaps this might motivate you.  I know you think you look good at this weight, but clearly the reality is that you don't look good or healthy at all.  Hopefully you will find the help you need in order to do what is necessary to make you healthy. I wish you all the best,

I know I look sick. I have said it myself. And I don't think I look good or do I think I look healthy or am healthy but I think people on the streets and men should keep it to themselfs. I could always go for the throat and say some thing nasty back but I don't. I don't understand why people has gotta try and hurt some one's feelings.  amy

Amy, The only reason I am responding to your post once again is because I would truly like to see you get better and I am certain that is the reason everyone else responded.  You have asked for help and advice and received it.  You cannot change anyone else's behavior, only your own.  What you do with the advice you have received here is your own choice.  I read your blog, particularly the entries for Sept 5 and Sept 10, where you talk about not eating and forcing yourself to vomit for days so you can get down to a weight that you think is appropriate for you.  That is the weight that has people thinking you are a crack addict.  Your wardrobe choices also have people thinking that way.  It is possible to dress tastefully whether you are fat or thin.  Your thinking is distorted, Amy.  You need help.  You are free, of course to continue in the path you have chosen.  But you must be willing to accept responsibility for the things that happen to you as a result of that choice.  If you aren't willing to accept that responsibility, then there is no sense in your asking for advice and help unless you are willing to change.  Nothing changes when nothing changes. Again, I wish you all the best,

I am 43 years old. How do you think I am suppose to dress. What is wrong with my jeans and shirts? I am not understanding about the clothes. Look at the little strap shirt you have on. It to me looks like a teen age shirt. My 16 year old has a black one. I am not trying to **** you off. I am just not understanding what my clothes has to do with (the price of rice in china)   it. I didn't see any age limit on the clothes I buy. I know I am over acting to your comment. But I am a grown woman I can take it. But let me tell you one thing I don't have the money to go out to a fancy or even wal-mart and get clothes. I go to the good will and get what will fit.............I am sorry if you can't understand that. I wish to god some people could walk one day in my shoes.....by the way they came from the good will too.........................

good answer, shazanne. there may be more to it than just your low weight. i think you said that you were buying clothes in the juniors and kids dept. quite frankly, a grown woman in teen clothes puts off a certain vibe. take a good look at yourself. if so many people are really saying such a thing, there's a chance that's really what you look like. (it may not be what you are, but you may have the appaerance.) what can you do to make yourself look more healthy, more mature, more put together? taking some steps in that direction could undoubtedly help you in more than one way. you can't change the way other people act. you can only change what you do. and for heaven's sake, find somewhere else to hang out where you don't run into such cruel, crass people!

what am I suppose to do go nude. I have to put on what fits. It is people at my son's appartment and I refuse to stop going to see him. No body on this board can sit there and tell me when they loose all the weight they want to that they are going to dress the same. You can say yes now but wait!!!!! Tell me a year from now you will not change the way you dress or change your hair. Loosing weight will make you feel young and live the nice young life that you didn't have as a teen.....getting picked on at school for being fat. I heard it all my teen life..................

I totally agree.  And I know that  this website is to uplift people and help them through their weightloss journey.  And by all means, I'm not one of those cruel, crass people.  But to be honest, you really need to take better care of yourself. If I seen you walking down the street I would probably say the same thing about you ( knowing that you have had surgery to correct you weight problem).  I am sorry this sounds so harsh but it is the truth.  Have you talked to your doctor about this.  Please talk to your doctor!!!!!!! This has to be hard to deal with.  I agree with the other two who posted also.  Sorry but it is the truth.....

Not trying to sound mean either. But I don't see a fat ass person walking down the street and think boy they must smoke lots of weed because it sure does look like they have the munchies. I can go for the throat too. But I keep my comments to myself. And yeah we are suppose to support others. What people say to be about being skinny I can come back with a fat comment but I am the better person and refuse to do so.

Hi Amy, Next time some one asks you that, or implies it, simply look a little surprised, smile and say, "Why no, but if you like I can crack you on the head."  Keep smiling, say, "Have a nice day."  And keep on truckin.  You can mumble the unmentionables under your breath as you walk away. Some folks just don't care.. but we do! Your friend, Dianef