Venting, what would you do? (long)

Sorry for all the drama.  I hate it when you cannot trust people..  Hopefully things will smooth out.  :)

Nancy, I'm sorry your friend disappointed you.  It is always hard to be let down by our friends but it seems like an extra hard kick in the bottom when your have just been through major surgery.  I agree with all your other friends here on OH.  Concentrate on feeling better yourself and try not to worry about these silly people.  They will wait until you get back to work.  By the way, I've worked in the school system before and it is a breeding ground for rumors.  By the time you go back to work, there is no telling what type of fantastic tale may have been spun about your surgery anyway.  You seem to have a great sense of humor so as you feel better maybe you can think of some quick cute comebacks for inquiring minds!   Your friend, Bobbie

(((((((((NANCY))))))))))  I am sorry you are having such a rough time.  This is one of the reasons I just went ahead and told everybody at work what I was planning on doing.  Whether you tell or not, it really is a no win situation.  I have now put myself in the position of everyone watching what I am eating and trying to tell me what to do and what not to do (like they even have a clue!!) and one co-worker even offered me cake at lunch today knowing full well that I can't and won't eat it!!  I figure I will run into a lot of things like this in the future.  But I have made my choice and no matter how hard some people try to sabotage my efforts, I refuse to fail. I am sorry that someone you thought was your friend betrayed you.  Just remember, we all make mistakes.  Not that that excuses what she did in any way, shape, or form but just do what everybody else has advised and take a few days to let yourself calm down.  You are right ~ you don't need to focus on all this drama while you are trying to recover from surgery.  I'm sure everything will blow over in due time and life will just get better and better for you.  Especially when you are skinnier than they are!!!  Take care of you and don't worry about all the drama queens!! Hugs to you, Donna

I have now put myself in the position of everyone watching what I am eating and trying to tell me what to do and what not to do (like they even have a clue!!) and one co-worker even offered me cake at lunch today knowing full well that I can't and won't eat it!!      Hey Donna,       This made me laugh. They know so much about what to do and not do, yet they offer you cake! Bah! Yeah, they have all the answers, right? And I, like you, have told everyone what I'm doing. I really don't care who likes it and who doesn't. If it was their body, then their opinion would matter to me. But since it isn't...STFU!   Love Love Love  Mare 

So sorry that your so-called friends upset you like that.  Chances are the rest of the office does know.  Don't let it upset you.  You don't need this drama right now when you need to concentrate on healing.   Don't do anything drastic now, you are emotional as we all are right after the shock of surgery.  Give yourself some time to cool off.  It might not be as bad as you think if the office knows.  My whole office knows and have been wonderfully supportive.  It's kind of nice to have the support at work as well as at home.   Definitely let A know that your trust in her is shaken but don't throw away a friendship, a good friendship is hard to come by.  Then talk to B and find out what her issue is with your promotion.  If she can't handle it then oh well. Good luck and don't let them get to you.  I had similar issues with my two sisters.  No support there.  I just let them know that this was best for me and that was that.   Keep a positive attitude...it helps the healing process. 

I  am sorry you are upset and hurt. Sometimes our friends just act like children. I am handling it different.... I tell everybody I see about it. That way by the time I have the wls they will have it out of their system.  Everyone in Rowan County prob. knows by now. I have people I don't know come up and ask me. Guess what... I tell all. I work at the Post Office so word travels.  It is natural for people to goship.....but it is very hurtful for friends to do this when you take them into your confidence. I hope it all works out for you and the additional stress does not hold back your healling or WL. Myrtis

I need to proof read.......Gossip!