Just Venting......

I love my Mom, I do.  I don't believe that feeling is reciprocated, but that's ok. I have learned to live with it and deal with it.  I was telling Mom that I bought myself a beautiful New Year's Eve dress in a size 8.  It's my motivator dress;  to which my mother replied, "Why is it that no matter how much weight we lose, we will always see a fat person in the mirror?"  I quickly said,"I won't, because I didn't become overweight until I was over 40!  I am getting back to what I know."  Ever since she said that all I see is a fat cow in the mirror.  A smaller version of the same body 70 lbs heavier.  A smaller fat person.  That one statement has taken me from my WOW moments of losing 70 lbs to "I will always be fat, no matter what I weigh." My mom has never weighed over 130lbs (unless pregnant).  So depressing it was, that I refused to go to the church picnic today (looking fat).  I did my chores and I was mopping the kitchen floor and I said, wait a minute!  I am not doing this!  So, to cheer me up, I ordered 2 more size 8 dresses from Bluefly.com, dyed my hair, rolled it up and said to myself, "I am not letting this happen!"  Now I feel better!  ok, thx for letting me vent! Diane

Good for you Diane. No one can hurt us as much as our mothers can they? My mom hurt me so bad one day when we were talking to a friend at church who had a new grandchild. This made the third one for that lady and my mother said if you have one more you will catch up with me. I knew exactly what she meant. I have three birth children and my sister has one. My mother wasn't including my 4 who are adopted. I hurt me so much but she is 72 and not well so I never want to upset her. I haven't told her I am trying to have this surgery. I am sure she will have plenty to say about that. She weighs 105 pounds. Beth

Good for you Diane!  Sometimes it is the people in our life that are closer to us than can sabotage our efforts.  I am not sure what your mom's line of thinking is.. but when I am 70 pounds lighter I will see a slimmer, more healthy version of ME!  I won't see this "fat girl" anymore! And you go girl.  Post us some pics of you in those size 8 dresses!  :D God Bless!

Hi Diane...or should I call you "sis?" LOL You are right! Our moms do sound very much alike. I don't think they mean to hurt us though. I don't know how old your mom is. Mine is 75 this year, still working, still in great shape, healthy, outgoing, all of that! God bless her. No one can understand the things we already say to ourselves in our own heads unless they have walked in our WW shoes. My mom just seems to blurt out whatever pops into her head at any given moment without any regard for who is around or where we are. I used to say "Maybe it's because she's older and that's just the way they are." She's a first class lady in all other aspects. Why can't she just think before engaging the tongue? Being "old" is not an excuse to be rude. (If I read her your post she would probably think your mom was outta line...without seeing herself in it.) I could go on forever about this...but I won't. LOL  Keep your chin up ~ a whole new world awaits you. ;O) Mare

Our moms love us but sometimes they hurt us. I have been hurt by my mom but I knew she meant well and I also have hurt my own daughters ( 15 and 24) not meaning to but trying to help. It is a fine line between help and critisem. My mother whom I loved dearly is dead now and I only remember the love and it was grand. My answer is listen to what she says  but.......do what is right for you. You know who you are let no one tell you different. Be proud what you are accoumplishing is worthy of being proud. Even our family can be jealous at times and not mean to be. You don't need anybodies approval but you own. Get that size 8 and when you wear it jump with joy. MTT

I agree with what everybody else has posted.   Hold your head up high girl ~~ you are awesome!!!   (((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))) Donna