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Just wanted some input on how others felt about this and what they did.
I am a few weeks away from 8 months out and am 31lbs from goal. I am extremely happy with the weight Ive lost and how far Ive come. Im greatful every day for the surgery and how my life has changed since it. But (theres always a but right!) Ive found lately that when I see myself naked I am just not happy. Of course I knew going into this I would not have a perfect body after and there would be issues... I just never thought at 186lbs I would look like this. I still carry a lot of weight in my stomach... I am praying that in the next 31lbs most of it goes from that area! I am still wearing a size 16 pants because of it. Also my arms still have a lot of weight... which I planned on from seeing friends with the surgery. That is becomming a huge frustration as well because I some shirts just dont fit my arms! Sometimes I am buying a larger size just to fit them *sigh*! I feel like I look pretty decent in my clothes but die at the thought of somebody seeing me naked.
Anyways, just wanted to see if others had the same frustration and how they dealt with it. I am now finding myself dreaming of the day I get plastic surgery... I am going to start looking into it but dont want to "put all my eggs in a basket" because of the cost and what I may or may not be able to get done.
I know some people may think I am ungreatful and say I should be happy with what I have... thats fine, but thats not why I posted.. just wanted insight from people in the same boat!
Just wanted some input on how others felt about this and what they did.
I am a few weeks away from 8 months out and am 31lbs from goal. I am extremely happy with the weight Ive lost and how far Ive come. Im greatful every day for the surgery and how my life has changed since it. But (theres always a but right!) Ive found lately that when I see myself naked I am just not happy. Of course I knew going into this I would not have a perfect body after and there would be issues... I just never thought at 186lbs I would look like this. I still carry a lot of weight in my stomach... I am praying that in the next 31lbs most of it goes from that area! I am still wearing a size 16 pants because of it. Also my arms still have a lot of weight... which I planned on from seeing friends with the surgery. That is becomming a huge frustration as well because I some shirts just dont fit my arms! Sometimes I am buying a larger size just to fit them *sigh*! I feel like I look pretty decent in my clothes but die at the thought of somebody seeing me naked.
Anyways, just wanted to see if others had the same frustration and how they dealt with it. I am now finding myself dreaming of the day I get plastic surgery... I am going to start looking into it but dont want to "put all my eggs in a basket" because of the cost and what I may or may not be able to get done.
I know some people may think I am ungreatful and say I should be happy with what I have... thats fine, but thats not why I posted.. just wanted insight from people in the same boat! 
Jennifer,
I'm not in your same boat YET but I know that soon I will be. My surgery is FEB 8th. I know that by my current size I may feel that same as you do now. I think that you have to do what makes you feel good ..I know that you are greatfule for your surgery but I also understand what you are saying. I can say for myself that I se plastic surgery in my future. I understand.
Stephanie
I LOVE the way I look with clothes on. I look like a wrinkled up old woman with them off. I am very embarassed especially that i have started to date again. I hear from everyone that I look good, that I am sexy, that I look so young. And I feel young but I look so old with these clothes off. The pants hide the dimples and wrinkles. My inner thighs and arms are the worst. I know exactly where you are coming from. Not sure where you started at but i am down to 180 from 345 in 11 months and gravitational pull is kicking in. Adrienne
Jennifer
I know exactly where you are coming from. I was in the same boat.
First, all of the remaining stomach is not fat. It is stretched, empty, loose skin. Your skin couldn't contract back in after being stretched for so long. With that being said I had a hernia due to an open rny and had the hernia repaired and a panniculectomy at the same time. Insurance covered it for me.
Now, naked I look like Frankenstein, but not a sharpei Frankenstien. 
You give up something else to gain something. I was cut from my sternum down to the pubic area and then from hip to hip. It looks like a ship's anchor on my stomach. Now, I don't have the hanging skin, but the scars. Also, I don't have the Calvin Klein underwear model stomach either. My abdominal muscles were so stretched that they repaired them as best they could. some days I think they didn't take enough off and I have to get out my before plastic surgery pics to realize that they took off a whole lot.
You will never look like a Victoria Secret's model body. You must look at the positives and continue on. You are now much healthier than you were before. You can move around so much better.
It's now a choice if you want to pursue plastic surgery and get scarred or leave the folds. I personally am glad that I took the scars. My wife never, ever mentions them, it's just when I get out of the shower I can't help but notice them. But I look great in my clothes and that's all that matters to everyone else.
Also, if you choose the plastic surgery route you will need to wait until you are at least 18 months out before most surgeons will talk to you.
Take care and keep your chin up.
Larry
I know exactly where you are coming from. I was in the same boat.
First, all of the remaining stomach is not fat. It is stretched, empty, loose skin. Your skin couldn't contract back in after being stretched for so long. With that being said I had a hernia due to an open rny and had the hernia repaired and a panniculectomy at the same time. Insurance covered it for me.
Now, naked I look like Frankenstein, but not a sharpei Frankenstien. You give up something else to gain something. I was cut from my sternum down to the pubic area and then from hip to hip. It looks like a ship's anchor on my stomach. Now, I don't have the hanging skin, but the scars. Also, I don't have the Calvin Klein underwear model stomach either. My abdominal muscles were so stretched that they repaired them as best they could. some days I think they didn't take enough off and I have to get out my before plastic surgery pics to realize that they took off a whole lot.
You will never look like a Victoria Secret's model body. You must look at the positives and continue on. You are now much healthier than you were before. You can move around so much better.
It's now a choice if you want to pursue plastic surgery and get scarred or leave the folds. I personally am glad that I took the scars. My wife never, ever mentions them, it's just when I get out of the shower I can't help but notice them. But I look great in my clothes and that's all that matters to everyone else.
Also, if you choose the plastic surgery route you will need to wait until you are at least 18 months out before most surgeons will talk to you.
Take care and keep your chin up.
Larry I don't think your ungreatful, I have had serious body images issues since I began losing my weight. I feel the same way when I look at myself without the clothes. I hate how scared my belly is from all the belly surgeries I've had. These scars make my stomach swell (as they are currently). I could fit in a 10 but I'm not a person who likes tight clothes.
I just bought some new pants because of my 'in between' size right now. I have huge breasts so this was disappointing because they didn't shrink from the surgery. My belly is still fat that's where I carry mine. If i find a way to get rid of it without surgery, ab's exercises.
Jennifer
Hi! As you can see from the previous replies, you are not ungrateful you are normal. Even though are expectations aren't unreasonable we still want to look "normal" in clothes and without. I am 11 months out and below goal. I started out at 274 and now weigh 131 naked. I too am extremely unhappy with my naked self. In fact I have consulted a plastic surgeon and plan on having a tummy tuck with breast lift/augmentation on March 8th. It will be awhile before I will be able to afford the thigh and buttock lift because of the cost of the surgeries. It's almost like, as far as appearances go, we trade one set of problems for another. The main thing is we are healthier. It seems though I am more critical of myself now than when I was morbidly obese. I guess it's all part of the mental transformation we have to make as our bodies shrink. Hang in there girl! It'll get better!
Carly
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