post-op, goal reached, one plastic surgery done, one more to go, emotional issues, men..

i haven't been here in ages...i'm post-op 3 years as June 6th..and just had my breast reduction/augmentation on the 7th of May...i'm doing well...still having some issues with the emotional reasons why..but at least i know what they are now...For those that dont' remember me...before i had the RNY I weighed 332 lbs i'm now down to 195...Dr. B set my goal at 200 and i reached that about a year in a half ago and have been maintaining it ever since..

Anyway's...if there's anyone else on here that is post-op have you found it hard to put yourself out there in harm's way to get hurt by others, especially guys? I never knew any males other then my family members that were decent..i've only had interactions with guys that made fun of me before...and i'm afriad to open up that door once again only to have perhaps the same results. I would love to meet single guys that have actually done this surgery so they'd understand this huge lifestyle choice i made and committed myself to follow years ago.

Congrats on you success.

Wow, that's amazing!  Do you find it hard to maintain?  You will meet the right guy sooner or later - they're not all bad - I'm pretty happy with mine!  :)

no i'm finding it pretty easy to maintain...but then again i never had any problems after my surgery either..i didn't even take pain killers after..and had no problems with consuming any food after once i was allowed to eat normal food again..

Congrats on your success!

I am 2 years post op today and my next stage of this long journey will be plastics - my surgeon was a strong advocate for waiting the two years post op before beginning any plastics .

Although I have been mainting around the same weight for over 6/7 months - I have had a lot of work to do on me mentally trying to catch up - still not finished- so this wait and work on my head stuff is not a bad thing!

I am married so I can not comment on having to put myself out there for dating after my weight loss but I do know a lot of post ops who do find it very challenging - there are some great love stories on OH of post ops meeting at OH conferences or online - so chk out the forums - dont put too much pressure on yourself and dont let any ******** get ya down!

Again congrats and good luck
deb