Dr.Bs Info Session on Tues...
So I'm a little nervous...
My BMI is 40. I weigh 254 lbs. My highest weight in the past 5 yrs was 293 lbs...my lowest in the past 5 years was 206. I yo-yo like crazy.
My knees and feet hurt all the time, and my blood pressure is high.
I'm considered morbidly obese, but I don't really look it. Even Dr B called me one of his "smaller" patients on my initial consult. Most people look at me and don't see what I weigh, but I feel it in everyday things I do. I know the recent pictures of our family vaction (I have them on my profile if you care to take a boo), certainly show my weight...UGH. I can't stand them.
I'm afraid people will look at me and wonder WHY I'm getting WLS. I've so far only told close family and a really close friend. I don't want to yo-yo anymore. I know how unhealthy it is. Is it bad to want this BEFORE I get back up to the 293 mark and over?? I would LOVE to be 150lbs. Losing 104 lbs. I could probably settle for 170. But I'm afraid that if "regular" people knew I was getting WLS, those who have never had to struggle with their weight, they would try to discourage me...to tell me to try "dieting' for a while first. (Its what my sister, who has always been a size 4, tried telling me tonight when I told her what I was going to Moncton for on Tuesday).
Has anyone else had this issue?? How do you talk about it??? So many people think that WLS is a shortcut away from "hard work". I tell them have they ever talked to someone whose been through it?? Its not easy, by ANY stretch of the imagination. It's a tool, for those of us who may need that little extra 'push' to get started.
I know that there is a skinny person inside of me who is dying to get out and show the world that she exists, every once in a while, she starts to show her face (206lbs...) but then the fat person promptly SITS on her, squishes her out of pure spite laughing with twisted evil laughs as she asserts herself as the one true god!!! Ok, a little dramatic, I know, but its how I feel sometimes.
Thanks All...
Laura
My BMI is 40. I weigh 254 lbs. My highest weight in the past 5 yrs was 293 lbs...my lowest in the past 5 years was 206. I yo-yo like crazy.
My knees and feet hurt all the time, and my blood pressure is high.
I'm considered morbidly obese, but I don't really look it. Even Dr B called me one of his "smaller" patients on my initial consult. Most people look at me and don't see what I weigh, but I feel it in everyday things I do. I know the recent pictures of our family vaction (I have them on my profile if you care to take a boo), certainly show my weight...UGH. I can't stand them.
I'm afraid people will look at me and wonder WHY I'm getting WLS. I've so far only told close family and a really close friend. I don't want to yo-yo anymore. I know how unhealthy it is. Is it bad to want this BEFORE I get back up to the 293 mark and over?? I would LOVE to be 150lbs. Losing 104 lbs. I could probably settle for 170. But I'm afraid that if "regular" people knew I was getting WLS, those who have never had to struggle with their weight, they would try to discourage me...to tell me to try "dieting' for a while first. (Its what my sister, who has always been a size 4, tried telling me tonight when I told her what I was going to Moncton for on Tuesday).
Has anyone else had this issue?? How do you talk about it??? So many people think that WLS is a shortcut away from "hard work". I tell them have they ever talked to someone whose been through it?? Its not easy, by ANY stretch of the imagination. It's a tool, for those of us who may need that little extra 'push' to get started.
I know that there is a skinny person inside of me who is dying to get out and show the world that she exists, every once in a while, she starts to show her face (206lbs...) but then the fat person promptly SITS on her, squishes her out of pure spite laughing with twisted evil laughs as she asserts herself as the one true god!!! Ok, a little dramatic, I know, but its how I feel sometimes.
Thanks All...
Laura
Laura,
Not wanting to be subjected to the uninformed opinions of others I choose to tell only my DH and my only sister - who is also morbidly obese. The more people you tell the more people they will tell and so on, and so on. For me this is a private thing that I am doing for myself. I'm also doing it so that I will be in good enough health to help care for my mother and my son. I really don't think it is anyone else's business.
The logical time to do this is now and not when you are older or when you regain weight. I am 55 and wishing I had done this years ago - while my skin still had some elasticity LOL! Your beginning weight is just a few pounds lower than my beginning weight. I am down approximately 50 lbs. A lady at church asked me today if I was losing weight. I smiled and said, "why yes I am". She then asked me if I was trying or are you sick and I said, "I certainly am trying"! And try you must - this is not a free ride. The band is only a tool and they will tell you this repeatedly at the info session and most any other time you meet with them.
I wish you all the best - let that skinny person SHINE!
Take Care - Suzanne H.
Not wanting to be subjected to the uninformed opinions of others I choose to tell only my DH and my only sister - who is also morbidly obese. The more people you tell the more people they will tell and so on, and so on. For me this is a private thing that I am doing for myself. I'm also doing it so that I will be in good enough health to help care for my mother and my son. I really don't think it is anyone else's business.
The logical time to do this is now and not when you are older or when you regain weight. I am 55 and wishing I had done this years ago - while my skin still had some elasticity LOL! Your beginning weight is just a few pounds lower than my beginning weight. I am down approximately 50 lbs. A lady at church asked me today if I was losing weight. I smiled and said, "why yes I am". She then asked me if I was trying or are you sick and I said, "I certainly am trying"! And try you must - this is not a free ride. The band is only a tool and they will tell you this repeatedly at the info session and most any other time you meet with them.
I wish you all the best - let that skinny person SHINE!
Take Care - Suzanne H.
Well Laura My BMI is 43.3 I weigh 226lbs my highest has been 233-240lbs I am 5'0. my weight is spread through out my body well distributed so I also look overweight, but many people don't understand that I am morbidly obese. When people try to tell me I need to diet and exercise more and I well lose weight I ask them if they would like to take my 226lb weight on a 5'0 frame for a jog? I also explain that I lost my mother at the age of 55 due to obesity. My mother never even got to see her GRANDCHILDREN! I want to see my children grow up and see my grandchildren! These are my future goals and no one Else's and by god I am going to be skinny and healthy. When I am 55 I well be riding a bike with my grandchildren, maybe even skating!
Talk to you soon Stephanie
Talk to you soon Stephanie
Suzanne, I would have never have guessed you at 55!! Your face has such a youthful glow! You must tell me your secret!!! 
I guess thats why I've considered this now. Stephanie, like you, I want to be active and heathy going into my older years...(I'm 36 now). All my genetics are against me and it scares the bejeazous out of me. My Dad had his first massive heartattack at 44, the second one was a few years later when he was playing with my then 4 yr old daughter...!! Scarey for her too! I've lost 3 aunts/uncles on his side to Cancer in the last two years. My Mum is diabetic, osteoarthritic, has holes in her knees and hips and can't walk more than a few steps at a time due to the osteoporosis. And she's only in her 60's!
I want to encourage my now 10 1/2 yr old daughter to be healthy. She has seen me be active, my job keeps me active, (ARMY), but my biggest issue is I love food. And I don't always have the willpower to keep my portions small. Progress is so slow sometimes, and it gets discouraging, so I wonder why I keep trying...vicious cycle, I know.
So I will probably keep the fact that I'm getting WLS limited to those who know me best. My parents, my best friend, my DH, (who will be gone for most of this journey, as he is army as well, and gone on course for 18 months). I will keep it under wraps for now for anyone else other than your wonderful ladies (and some gents, I know they're here somewhere!!)
I guess thats why I've considered this now. Stephanie, like you, I want to be active and heathy going into my older years...(I'm 36 now). All my genetics are against me and it scares the bejeazous out of me. My Dad had his first massive heartattack at 44, the second one was a few years later when he was playing with my then 4 yr old daughter...!! Scarey for her too! I've lost 3 aunts/uncles on his side to Cancer in the last two years. My Mum is diabetic, osteoarthritic, has holes in her knees and hips and can't walk more than a few steps at a time due to the osteoporosis. And she's only in her 60's!
I want to encourage my now 10 1/2 yr old daughter to be healthy. She has seen me be active, my job keeps me active, (ARMY), but my biggest issue is I love food. And I don't always have the willpower to keep my portions small. Progress is so slow sometimes, and it gets discouraging, so I wonder why I keep trying...vicious cycle, I know.
So I will probably keep the fact that I'm getting WLS limited to those who know me best. My parents, my best friend, my DH, (who will be gone for most of this journey, as he is army as well, and gone on course for 18 months). I will keep it under wraps for now for anyone else other than your wonderful ladies (and some gents, I know they're here somewhere!!)
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Hi Laura - I can definitely understand what you are feeling and going through. I was 270 pre-op and got down to 150 in exactly one year with the lap band. Since then (second year) I gained back 26 lbs -- 6 of which I am down now, so I'm at about 170 lbs. So like you, I'd be ok with 170 but the ultimate goal is 150.
In the beginning, I told everyone. In retrospect, I really would rather have not. Most people, I have found, don't understand why we need this surgery. I was a yo yo dieter all my life as well. I could lose weight but never keep it off. The lap band has changed my life for the better. I don't do well with criticism so I've found it better not to talk about my surgery now. My friends all know but I don't broadcast it anymore.
You need to do what works for YOU and not worry about what other people think. I wish you all the best!
In the beginning, I told everyone. In retrospect, I really would rather have not. Most people, I have found, don't understand why we need this surgery. I was a yo yo dieter all my life as well. I could lose weight but never keep it off. The lap band has changed my life for the better. I don't do well with criticism so I've found it better not to talk about my surgery now. My friends all know but I don't broadcast it anymore.
You need to do what works for YOU and not worry about what other people think. I wish you all the best!
Hi Laura,
I started this journey @ 229lbs at my highest and l am only 5'2" so I know where you are coming from. I am a single mother of three very active & healthy kids ages 14,12 and 9. They are all black belts in taekwondo and live healthy lives.
When I finally got my call, my kids were the only people I told. People have very strong opinions on WLS, a lot of which are based on heresay. I didn't want to be the fat mom at school and did want to be able to do various activities with my kids.
One takes this journey first and foremost for oneself. Others will benefit from your weight loss as well, like your kids and DH.
When people found out that I had gone for WLS, they were mostly surprised saying that I wasn'r really "that big". What I was was morbidly obese, whether they saw that or not. I had my WLS in July of last year and have lost 62lbs so far. I am working out at the gym and training for Run for the cure in October. I will be running with my 12 year old daughter, and running for my cousin who died of breast cancer this last Spring.
You can do this Laura. Stay focused and remind yourself why you are doing this and you will be fine. As soon as my schedule allows me to, I want to take taekwondo classes and earn my black belt. I will of course need to bow to my kids because they will all be higher belts than me, but that's ok!
Jet
I started this journey @ 229lbs at my highest and l am only 5'2" so I know where you are coming from. I am a single mother of three very active & healthy kids ages 14,12 and 9. They are all black belts in taekwondo and live healthy lives.
When I finally got my call, my kids were the only people I told. People have very strong opinions on WLS, a lot of which are based on heresay. I didn't want to be the fat mom at school and did want to be able to do various activities with my kids.
One takes this journey first and foremost for oneself. Others will benefit from your weight loss as well, like your kids and DH.
When people found out that I had gone for WLS, they were mostly surprised saying that I wasn'r really "that big". What I was was morbidly obese, whether they saw that or not. I had my WLS in July of last year and have lost 62lbs so far. I am working out at the gym and training for Run for the cure in October. I will be running with my 12 year old daughter, and running for my cousin who died of breast cancer this last Spring.
You can do this Laura. Stay focused and remind yourself why you are doing this and you will be fine. As soon as my schedule allows me to, I want to take taekwondo classes and earn my black belt. I will of course need to bow to my kids because they will all be higher belts than me, but that's ok!
Jet
You know, I think what really hit home this past month was going to Canada's wonderland and not being able to go on many of the rides due to my size...my darn arse wouldn't fit in the seats!! So my DH and my daughter got to enjoy most of the park, while I waited patiently at the gates and took pictures...I was so disheartened and did my best not to cry that I couldn't so much as enjoy a family day with my family.
But I've heard people tell me that I'm "not that big" too. Or when I do tell them what I weigh, I get the "wow, you really carry that well"...Huh??? Whats with that statement MEAN anyways? It doesn't really make me feel better...LOL... I'm wondering if its just me that sees how unhealthy I am, or if its societys general view on what consitiutes healthy now. It seems obesity is becoming "normal". The whole "So long as you can accept yourself, there is nothing wrong with being a little overweight".
This IS for me. For me to be able to play with my daughter...for me to be able to finally get married (DH and I are common-law-12yrs now) in Jamaica in 2 years and want to have those pictures taken. To someday still be able to dance at my daughters wedding...to be alive in another 30 years...that would be important to me...LOL...
But I've heard people tell me that I'm "not that big" too. Or when I do tell them what I weigh, I get the "wow, you really carry that well"...Huh??? Whats with that statement MEAN anyways? It doesn't really make me feel better...LOL... I'm wondering if its just me that sees how unhealthy I am, or if its societys general view on what consitiutes healthy now. It seems obesity is becoming "normal". The whole "So long as you can accept yourself, there is nothing wrong with being a little overweight".
This IS for me. For me to be able to play with my daughter...for me to be able to finally get married (DH and I are common-law-12yrs now) in Jamaica in 2 years and want to have those pictures taken. To someday still be able to dance at my daughters wedding...to be alive in another 30 years...that would be important to me...LOL...
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on 8/3/09 11:21 am - saint john, Canada
on 8/3/09 11:21 am - saint john, Canada
Hi bikermom73 and welcome. My highest weight was 293 at 5'3" I looked morbidly obese. Which wls surgery are you considering? I had RNY gastric bypass. I don't think there was or is anything easy about this. I am frequently sick and throw up at least 4 times a week. I often dump and that really is no fun. Nobody knows about my decision but my sons and my ex husband and of course people here on OH. This is my business and I don't need their opinions or ideas. I don't recall needing their approval for this so I certsainly won't accept their disapproval. Good luck and come back often
Higest weight 305
weight surgery day Feb 12 2009 251
Current weight 174
First goal 199 Onederland ( Reached goal Aug 8 @ 198lbs)
Second goal 193 Century Club ( Reached on Aug 30 2009 )
Third goal 180 pounds ( Reached on Nov.23 2009 ) (my personal goal)
Final goal 170 pounds ( reached Jan 5 2011) ( only stayed that weight breifly)
I'm still maggie from the grove
I LOVE MY RNY !!!
2 years down, a lifetime to go!!!!
LIVE, LAUGH, LOVE, NOBODY GETS OUT ALIVE
weight surgery day Feb 12 2009 251
Current weight 174
First goal 199 Onederland ( Reached goal Aug 8 @ 198lbs)
Second goal 193 Century Club ( Reached on Aug 30 2009 )
Third goal 180 pounds ( Reached on Nov.23 2009 ) (my personal goal)
Final goal 170 pounds ( reached Jan 5 2011) ( only stayed that weight breifly)
I'm still maggie from the grove
I LOVE MY RNY !!!2 years down, a lifetime to go!!!!
LIVE, LAUGH, LOVE, NOBODY GETS OUT ALIVE
Thankyou for the welcome marymother.
My info session went well. I'm now leaning towards the RNY. I was sure I wanted lap band, but the issue of if I DO happen to be sick and slippage, then fills, ect. Sounds like more trips to Moncton than I want to consider, and since hubby is military, I'm only here for another 2-3 years before we are (most likely) headed to Alberta...
Do you have dumping with any food?? They told us yesterday that it would only happen with sugarary, or high fat foods. But everyone is so different...4 x a week seems like alot. What about nutrient wise, are you able to take your vitamins and such??? Or are they coming back up as well??
Thank for your warm words of support...
Laura
My info session went well. I'm now leaning towards the RNY. I was sure I wanted lap band, but the issue of if I DO happen to be sick and slippage, then fills, ect. Sounds like more trips to Moncton than I want to consider, and since hubby is military, I'm only here for another 2-3 years before we are (most likely) headed to Alberta...
Do you have dumping with any food?? They told us yesterday that it would only happen with sugarary, or high fat foods. But everyone is so different...4 x a week seems like alot. What about nutrient wise, are you able to take your vitamins and such??? Or are they coming back up as well??
Thank for your warm words of support...
Laura
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