Oh my poor house

OMG, my poor house looks like a bomb hit it squarely dead center. My sons will do anything I ask them but I ask so much of them I pick my requests at important things I am still unable to do. I feel so nauseated most of the time, I get them to do the grocery shopping, banking, bill paying, running to the store to get me something I think I might be able to drink or eat. They take care of animal feedings and cleanings, cleaning dishes and playing go fetch. I chide myself because by now I should be doing most of this stuff but I feel so tired and crappy. I will try to ignore the mess and appricate my son's help without complaint. That's why I vent on OH.

Maggie, Is your house clean enough to be healthy? or perhaps I should ask, Is you house dirty enough to be a health hazard? (Remember you are talking to a social worker, who has to suspend her middle class values at times to do her job)..........I didn't think so. It may not be to your usual standard, but it is 90% clutter and mess, not dirt. It can wait. If the basics like dishes  are being done, forget about it.  It can wait until you feel well enough.  Your well being is much more important.  Forget how you should feel and deal with how you do feel and rest. I am sure your son are coping just fine.

Thanks Charline for setting prespective. Yes my dishes my animals and I eat from are clean. It's the bits of plastic and debris on the floor that kills me. The bathroom almost sets tears in my eyes but I have seen worse in my life. Just not in my flush. Oh my. I poured a gallon of javex in the flush last night and let it sit overnight with the lid closed so I know the bowl itself is clean. My sons seem oblivous to it.
But you are right, when I feel better, it will be all there for me.It's only about an hour's work.

 You have been through quite an ordeal!  So go ahead and vent away.  We all have or will have our struggles (and victories) of one sort or another regarding the WLS and its great to be able to vent to people *****ally understand.  I have my mom living upstairs and my son living downstairs - both are in poor health - but I wouldn't have it any other way.   This is why I have the juggling smiley with my signature.   You just have to find a way to not let it make you crazy!   Easier said than done I know!  Sometimes you just have to let go of some things - so why not housework?  It's not like I really enjoy it anyway. Prioritize - it will all get done eventually.  All of what you have been through is so that you can be the best you can be.  Your life will be extended because of the weight loss - just think of how many extra years you will have to do house work!   Focus on getting better - it is okay to be a little selfish and take some time for you!  Find that perfect cup of ******  and heal.  I'm hear any time you need to vent

Thanks suzanne,the more my house gets messy, the more I'll vent here. I wouldn't complain to my boys about it. They do a great job taking care of me. Though I have to laugh at my youngest. He lives next door along with my eldest who is staying withy me till I feel better. My youngerst comes over at a drop of a hat if I need him, does what I ask and is gone just as soon as the deed is done. He'll do anything I ask, I just seem to be always asking.