To tell or not to tell my children.
SURGERY IS TUESDAY !!!!! HOLY C#@P!!!! Did I read that right?
Wow Charline, time flys when you aren't paying close attention to what your friends tell you - the you being me of course. I think I had better write surgery dates down on a calendar so I can keep it all straight. There are just too many of you guys on here that keep getting called and I am getting confused. Maggie is in like 7 days. I thought you were on the 24th. Where was I or am I having a DUHHH moment?
Ann
Wow Charline, time flys when you aren't paying close attention to what your friends tell you - the you being me of course. I think I had better write surgery dates down on a calendar so I can keep it all straight. There are just too many of you guys on here that keep getting called and I am getting confused. Maggie is in like 7 days. I thought you were on the 24th. Where was I or am I having a DUHHH moment?
Ann
I have no children either, so I can't relate in a direct way to your decision. As a daughter, I would want to know what was going on with my parent. Not only because of the risk, but because it has been such a big part of your life to get to this point, how could you not want to share that with your kids? If you're afraid of what they'll say, then that will only be magnified if you don't tell them until after. They may be upset and resentful, no matter their feelings about WLS.
As an aside, I have been on the waiting list in Halifax since 2001. I am an open person, and I have told most people at work, and all of my friends and family. My younger nieces (8 and 12) know; my sister in law told them. This is such a big part of my life I can't imagine not sharing it with people around me. I am indeed lucky though. I only have one friend who is not supportive, and she is quiet about it. All others are only wanting the best for me. I wish you the best in your decision, and hope that it turns out the best way for you and your family :)
As an aside, I have been on the waiting list in Halifax since 2001. I am an open person, and I have told most people at work, and all of my friends and family. My younger nieces (8 and 12) know; my sister in law told them. This is such a big part of my life I can't imagine not sharing it with people around me. I am indeed lucky though. I only have one friend who is not supportive, and she is quiet about it. All others are only wanting the best for me. I wish you the best in your decision, and hope that it turns out the best way for you and your family :)
Weight lost since surgery (Oct. 1, 2009): 47 lbs
HI,
I have 4 sons...between 19 and 23 when I had the surgery. I didn't tell them or almost anybody else for that matter for 2 years. Til my weight was stable and my health was also clearly fine. I may never have told them...I didn't really know right up until last summer when I decided to tell them the reason I had lost the wieght.
No one got outwardly annoyed. The youngest son even lived with me and knew I was easting strangely...all meat and not much else. But, they just figured a diet.
It was a personal decision and for me it worked. Yes I would be annoyed if my mom did that to me. But it would be because I would want to help her along. So if she chose to go it alone...so be it.
It worked for me. Now, mainly because I feel I can help others to understand that WLS is not this big bad thing...I don't care who knows. And besides with such good health it would not have any cause to worry anyone in my family...and during the period of loosing like 15 to 20 pounds a month...they would have worried that the WLs was killing me.
so..it worked for me. If the kids were mad.....well they need to get over it. I am a woman in my own right...not just their mom, or a wife, or an employee...and I answer to no one. And when it comes to my health...I took charge and changed it...and I love it that I did. My way on my terms.
Take Care,
Catherine
ps. but really...if I had of lived inthe same town, or even country as my family...I would probably not have bothered keeping it secret. It was just that if there was a problem...no one was going to be able to fly to Lux to help me. So...why worry them.
I have 4 sons...between 19 and 23 when I had the surgery. I didn't tell them or almost anybody else for that matter for 2 years. Til my weight was stable and my health was also clearly fine. I may never have told them...I didn't really know right up until last summer when I decided to tell them the reason I had lost the wieght.
No one got outwardly annoyed. The youngest son even lived with me and knew I was easting strangely...all meat and not much else. But, they just figured a diet.
It was a personal decision and for me it worked. Yes I would be annoyed if my mom did that to me. But it would be because I would want to help her along. So if she chose to go it alone...so be it.
It worked for me. Now, mainly because I feel I can help others to understand that WLS is not this big bad thing...I don't care who knows. And besides with such good health it would not have any cause to worry anyone in my family...and during the period of loosing like 15 to 20 pounds a month...they would have worried that the WLs was killing me.
so..it worked for me. If the kids were mad.....well they need to get over it. I am a woman in my own right...not just their mom, or a wife, or an employee...and I answer to no one. And when it comes to my health...I took charge and changed it...and I love it that I did. My way on my terms.
Take Care,
Catherine
ps. but really...if I had of lived inthe same town, or even country as my family...I would probably not have bothered keeping it secret. It was just that if there was a problem...no one was going to be able to fly to Lux to help me. So...why worry them.
DS Surgery June 2006, Been fine every since. Weight stays the same. Rarely remember I had surgery.....except for the daily vitamins.
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