I found out why I haven't been called......

I called before Christmas & Nathalie told me that my name was sent to the hospital. When didn't get a call, I started calling the pre-op clinic. I couldn't reach anyone over Christmas. So today, I called again and was told that I was still on the waiting list...Dr B has not given me the green light for surgery. WHAT?!?  So called Nathalie, who told me in December my name was sent to the Dumont. She told me that my name was on the list, she did know why I was told I was not...... She suggested that I call the nurse. I did so, left a message, and Caroline called me back with some answers.
When I saw Dr B on October, I had been referred by my family doctor to a cardiologist. & I was scheduled to go in for the stress test in a couple of weeks and I would have the results sent to him. Turns out that the appointment was for a chest x-ray, I didn't know my doctor ordered. When I saw him in December I explained this (I had also told Lise about the mix up). When we signed the consents I thought  I was approved.  Well, Dr B had decided that he wanted a cardiologist to see me before surgery and he wrote in the chart that I would not be having surgery for 3 months!!!   AHHHHH!  He didn't say a word to me. Lucky for me, I see the cardiologist on Jan 14 and I am hoping I can get him to fax his OK for surgery immediately.  I hope he does not refuse.  I am so discouraged/ depressed. Not to mention angry too.  I need to let it go, because there isn't anything I can do about it. All that waiting and being anxious about getting the call before Christmas, for what? Nothing- that's what.

 

I feel so bad for you.  I don't know what to say because I can only imagine how it must feel... especially that you've been waiting much longer than us...  It must frustrate when we talk about waiting for our call when we haven't been waiting for more than a few months... I should say "I" have been waiting impatienly.  I don't want to impose anybody else.

Know that I am here for you!!! 

It sucks that you were not informed of this before hand. That' s probably what's lighting your ass because you were expecting any day now...so it's a disapointment.

but while you wait- look at the bright side, you'll know 100% your heart is safe for surgery. I assume your doctor is sending you to make sure things are alright and I'm sure Dr. B has valid reasons for making you wait, also. So even though 'm sure everything is alright with you, it's always good to know :)

you've waited so long, another month can't be so bad. Keep positive!!! :)

Hi Charline

I know its difficult but I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason.

My rny buddy that I went thru all pre-op work with and we had the same surgeon and we were gonna be a week apart in our surgeries.

Well she had to do an extra cardiology appt and something extra to due with a test and no one was really telling her anything  except show up for this test at this time..... we kept wondering if none of the specialists mentioned anything wrong then maybe they goofed on a test  etc.- we went thru all my tests that were requested by the surgeon and yes she definitely was having an extra test done that had not been ordered for me.

Charline they found out that she had damage to her heart from a weird type of infection - I believe it was viral and could have been as simple as bad bronchitis or pnemonia which she said she couldnt even remember the last time she had something like that -  but the point of the story is that if she had gone thru surgery she could have not made it - she is still all this time later coming up on 8 months seeing all these specialists- having to be on many meds and they keep doing stress tests and others to see where she is at now.

As it stands right now she is not ok to go through with surgery but this discovery also saved her life.......

Not that there is anything wrong with you and i am sure it will be all fine - but I do believe everything happens for a reason.

Chin up girl just a few more hurdles just keep staying healthy and think of this as extra prep time for the big event.

hugs
Deb

Thanks to all of you and I know you understand how it feels to be told that surgery is going to happen by such & such a date but it doesn't. As for my ticker, I am sure it is fine, in fact, my GP's nurse called today to say that the ECG and halter monitor test all came back normal. I am just so frustrated.......I feel like tearing into a giant cheese cake or something!  Oh well, that behavior is so yesterday.....

Too funny!  I was writing my response at the some time as you (got a little distracted by Momma's Boys before hitting submit - knew you would be thinking about cheesecake, baby!

Ok Charline, take a deep breath ... scream ... now breathe again.  We don't want any stress damage on that heart of yours to give any more cause for delay!  Yes it sucks, but as Debbie said, and I believe, everything happens for a reason so just let God provide in His time.

Think of this - Christmas is typically a hard time for you.  Had you known that it was going to be at least 3 months would you have done so well in watching what you ate (just in case you got called in for a date) or would you have gone on a "feast" with the thought that after New Year you would work extra hard to lose weight before going back to see Dr B?  Something to think about.

So step away from the "cheesecake" and put that frustration to work for you by grabbing your poles and walking!

If you need to talk, call me my dear!

{{{{ Hugs }}}}

Thanks Michelle. I have stepped away from the cheese cake!! LOL I don't have any dangerous food in the house anyway! It's late, but I might just call you tomorrow. I know all this (& you are so right about Christmas), but It is so nice not to be alone going through it.

Oh Charline, 3 months is nothing. maybe it won't even be 3 months. You are so close you can almost taste it. Just remember the years waiting for the phone to ring to finally get in to see him. I can easily recall hoping and waiting for the phone call. Not wanting to go on vacation or even go for a couple of days because I might miss THE CALL. You must remember those times too. Now you are past all of that. Your time has arrived.  It's a good thing I did not rely on an answering machine. The only reason I got in when I did was because his nurse called a couple of others who were not at home so she moved down the list and I was. Chin up. The worst of the wait is over girl. Just think that. Either way, this summer you will be on your way.

I  was  at the hospital in my two johnny  shirts   on  and sat in hospital  and waited and waited for 8 hours was bumped due to transplant, had to wait two weeks


it is  hard to wait i had to wait five  years from first visit to my operation and right before the antthicolgist sp  said he may not have enough gas to keep me under that was  scary   


i found that  these things are out of our control  and the more you get worked up the harder it is to stay positive....  


but this operation is  for life and you have to take small steps and walk before we run



kepp your head i was there  if you ever need a sounding board i will try and help...