second thoughts??

Hey Charline,

That is an excellent plan. I should buy myself a few second hand clothes!!!
I haven't been having second thoughts- I'm just scared of being in the statistic of people not losing weight!! I think that these message boards are great information and support but you have to be careful what you read because it has really made me paranoid.

It's so very strange...before I was sure I had 3 or 4 years to wait and now that it's coming in December it feels like time is passing by so slow!!!!!!!!

With lap band the surgery is the first step but not the most important one! I just can't wait for it to be over so I can move on to slow weight loss.

I hope you're feeling better! I've been thinking of all the food I won't be able to have when it's over and I'm ready- Fried chicken will no longer rule my life, I will!

I think this weekend I will do like you- go shopping for tiny clothes!

HAHA

Hey Charline,

It's shaking pretty good because unfortunately I've lots to shake. :-D

Shopping is a soothing balm for sooooo many things. I think that was a darn good idea to go out and get a few pieces of "I'm going to fit into these" clothes. It'll give you something to aim for.  Just look at those size 16 tops and say "I'm going to wear you little uggers by next summer!"

I know that I do that for motivation - 10 years ago, I dieted myself down to a size 15, and I still have those clothes (yeah, I'm a pack rat), but it's good motivation to think that I'm going ot fit into these babies again someday. Of course, I have a closet filled with clothes from varying sizes going from 14 up to 26. :-D I'm just hoping to get back into the size 24s someday. ;-)

Ooh, one trick that I'm going to try to keep this time around is not to not fall into the trap of wearing my loosest pants and thinking "I didn't gain any weight - these still fit!", and the famous "Well, these pants are tight because of water bloat". I have to remind myself tha****er bloat doesn't make me go up 2 sizes. As soon as my loosest pants are feeling snug, I'm going to get back on the watching what I eat wagon. I let my emotional eating get the best of me the last time, and I gained everything, plus so much more, back on.

Oh P-N, you  are a hoot!  Honey, Anyone here not on the loosers bench, has lots to shake, juggle, and "hang out." 
If you look in the dictonary under "pack-rat"- my picture will be right there. BUT this time when I loose this LARD I am going to take in the pieces I can & get rid of the too big clothing fast. that way I can slip into some pants still hanging in the closet because I am retaining water that is really demon lard! Another stratagy  intend to use, is to have 1 sweet treat a week on Sunday, if and only if I have been a good girl all week. I have done this sucessfully many times to get back on track with my diabeties when my sugar cravings take control.

 Hi, Charline - 
I am so glad that you asked this question, because I have had the same one.  I actually posted something a little while ago.

I think that unless we figure out our "triggers," and change our mindset, we won't be successful no matter what we do: surgically or not.  The band isn't the absolute answer...we need to turn things around in our brains, too.

Personally, I think the only way to do that is to seek out professional counseling, and to learn how to make this work.

I am sure second thoughts are normal for a lot of people. And the woman who gained back her weight? Don't use her to base your decision!! You don't have to be like she is. It is all about choices.

I guess the first thing that popped into my mind is this "What if you DON'T have the surgery? What are your chances of weight loss success?" For me, personally ~ no chance. I decided that this is it for me. The lap band will and is working (I'm down 115 lbs to 155) and this is it.

What if you can't stick to it? Then accept it and try to be fat and happy. I'm not being glib ... I just believe so much that this lap band can be the answer for us.

This is so ironic....I finally worked up the nerve to call my doctor's office on Friday to see if the actual referral had been sent.  It WAS sent on Oct 8, the same day I saw my doctor so he wasted no time in getting it out there.  That night as my husband and I were talking, all these fears surfaced for me as well.  What if it happens sooner than I think and I'm not prepared? What if I screw it up and don't lose the weight?  What if I have complications like I did with my tummy tuck, where I almost died?  All the what if's!!!  So glad to see that I'm not the only one!!  And even more glad that you all shared your thoughts so I can feel a little more reassured about this decision. 

I have been waiting years. I have known since the spring that I would likely have my surgery by the New Years give or take or take a month.  I was so excited when I had my consult with Dr B. & I would have been devastated if the Dr had not approved me. Still. a week or so later, the doubts came flooding in.  I opening up here & found that I was not alone.
Hang around and we will get each other through.