Can anyone tell me?

I am needing and wanting to lose weight I am getting very desperate as when I came to this website, I didn't realize how much trouble I can be in with as heavy I am, I am 5' 6" and weight 335.5 lbs....pretty scary. I am not sure how to go about losing weight, I don't eat much, sometimes not at all, and I am too ashamed to go out doors, so here I sit getting bigger and bigger and have no motivation anymore to try to exercise, and at the point that I wish I would just hurry up and explode, and be done with it for ever....I had exercied everyday for over a year, and didn't lose an ounce, granted when I did this I was a little lighter them I am now, but I lost faith in trying to lose weight or even keeping it steady, I do have a thyroid problem, and just had hyperparathyroidism surgery...am I going to be stuck being big and FAT 4-ever? I hope not, I want to be healthy, and energitic, and motivated, and to be able to breath without running out of breath even walking from my livingroom to my bedroom, which isn't far at all, I can't even stand for long hours or even for a half an hour with out my back hurting, and then later my feet hurting real bad, feeling like I need to have them removed. Please tell me the best way to lose weight, and best way to exercise, and to become motivated, even when I do exercise I get migraines, which makes me not want to exercise anymore, for fear that I will get more headaches....I want to do this I want to lose weight, I want to be happy and healthy, but I fear I am going no where! I really don't want to do surgery, besides, I don't even have insurance, so I really don't think I will be able to ever afford to have it done. I am at my wits end and feel I would rather die anymore than to be this big and hurt from not being comfortable to going out with my boys, ages: 20, 19, 13 and 9, they wonder why mom doesn't want to go do anything, I go to the movies and I sit in a chair and it hurts, I went to the fair one time and couldn't go on a ride because I was too fat and they couldn't close the ride, and it was so ashamed because I had to walk back to the gate and everyone was looking, and I just went to my sons school to meet with the teachers, and felt so ashamed because they wanted me to sit in a chair that is attached to the seat and I couldn't fit in it, they thought I didn't want to sit up front in front of all the teachers so they started to move the desks, I said no we need to go sit at the round table in the back of the room because I just cannot fit in these chairs....I am to the point I am just safe in the house, I don't hear rude remarks here, and don't feel so uncomfortable. Please someone tell me the best route to go....I WANT TO SURVIVE AND I WANT TO BE HAPPY!

Hi Tina, I wish I could help you more, but this is what little I can tell you. First of all, you really do need to exercise, but start out very slowly. Maybe start by taking laps inside your home. Exercise does increase the heart rate and BP, so going at it slowly might help with the headaches. Try to take a certain number of laps and increase it by a set amount each week. Any exercise is better than none. The person above suggested weigh****chers. Any program like that would be helpful if you can afford it. You might just buy the South Beach Diet book and go by their diet suggestions. From what I understand, it is very similar to how I eat now after weight loss surgery. Also, if you truly don't eat some days, that is not good for you. The body thinks it's starving and won't allow you to lose weight anyway. A better thing to do would be to plan 3-6 small balanced meals keeping your calorie intake under 1200 a day. It keeps the metabolism moving and helps with nutrition. Do you really not have insurance, or is it that your insurance doesn't cover surgery? Do you work? I know there are other websites specifically for people who don't want to have surgery, but I just don't know what they are. I happened along this one purely by accident. There have been many people who have been able to successfully lose weight following the programs that were mentioned above. The trick is to decide that you need to change your life habits for good, and then to do it. Remember that I have had surgery, but this is how I eat on a daily basis. Breakfast: 1 Low carb yogurt Snack: 1 serving (according to the box) cream of wheat or 1 packet oatmeal. Lunch: 4 oz cottage cheese and fruit, or 3 oz can of tuna and about 3 saltines and some fruit, or 3-4 oz meat and veggies. Snack: sometimes I have one, usually not. Often a sugar-free pudding (4 oz size) Dinner: 3-4 oz meat and veggies I know that the small size of the meals may not satisfy you, but you might just give it a try. Hope this helps you some, Linn