has this ever happened to you?

Hey everybody! I just wondered if this has ever happened to y'all. We have people that come into our building at work that bring our company mail, well this lady that goes to our old church came in Friday, she had not seen me in a long time, and she just told me how good I looked, and said she couldn't get over how much weight I had lost. Then she asks me what I was doing to lose weight, and I happily told her I had gastric bypass surgery in December and that I had lost nearly 110 pounds since then. Almost immediately she got this look of disgust on her face and said ... oh... and quickly said well i'll see you, kind of with a mean tone. I havent' had that reaction from anybody until her...It kind of shocked me to see that. I know some people think this is the easy way out.. well ITS NOT! You still have to work and excersise and you still have to control yourself with your eating, you just have a tool to help you. I know I really shouldn't care what she thinks but it just kind of caught me off guard.. and I was just wondering if this has happened to y'all. have a great day! Crystal

I'm sorry she treated you that way. I chalk reaction like that up to mis-information and lack of education. She doesn't know anything about Gastric Bypass. I have to say, I haven't told many people about my operation for that exact reason. I don't want to deal with people like that who just don't know what this procedure is about. I know it's hard, but just try to let it roll off your back. 110 pounds gone is a wonderful accomplishment!!!!!

Oh yhea i have had that happen a couple of times, learned my lesson!I dont tell anyone anymore, its not there business, if someone asks me how i have lost so much wt i simply tell them "eat less move around ALOT MORE!!" ITs pretty much the truth, i can say that the first 40 lbs came off with little to no effort, but after that its all been on me!! I dont give WLS any credit for my last 70 lbs , i can still eat the same amount now that i did before surgery , if i LET myself, and i could sit on my butt just like before surgery if i LET myself!! I just had a little HELP getting the ball rolling , after that the honeymoon is OVER and its been all on my shoulders, or tail i should say!! haha dont get me wrong i would still do it agian tomorrow, but i just wouldnt go around advertising it like i did this time, save myslef alot of frustration!YHEA im selfcentered, so what?. Im not here to be a poster child for WLS, not doing a commnuity service announcement, just trying to better myself!! SORRY!!! DAWN~~

Dawn -- You are so right again!!! It does take willpower after the "honeymoon period of WLS" I posted a few weeks ago w/ similar reaction. Trying to be nice --- I have chosen to say "It's medical" or "It's a personal choice" and walk away w/a smile orjust thank them for noticing and say "I have been working hard at it" or "as you know there is no easy way out" I hope I never said/ thought some of the things that people have said or done to me. I am not proud to say that I have lost some friends (their choice) since losing my flubber. I guess they thought they were doing me a big favor out of pity when I was super obese. My relationship w/ my own sister is strained since she stated that I had WLS because I was jealous of her. I had WLS because I was SUPER OBESE AT NEARLY 400 LBS. I hope I have become more of a true friend and sincere person since my own rebirth. I hope I never lose touch w the fact that I will always be JUST ONE SNACK/ MEAL AWAY FROM GAINING BACK LBS. THIS IS ONE BATTLE I INTEND TO WIN FOR ME AND MY HEALTH. HUMANS--- GOD CONTINUES TO LOVE US EACH AND EVERY ONE. glenda

I'm still struggling with whether or not I will tell some people. I feel like if I tell a few of my friends, then I will have to tell them all. I'm pretty good at shutting out negativity and saying screw them all, but I imagine there will come a time when someone catches me on a bad day and hurts my feelings about it. Crystal, my gut reaction when thinking of someone making a face like the one you got, is to roll my eyes and walk away. I hope you don't have to deal with that sort of thing again. Brandi :~)

Yep, Yep, Yep, have gotten that reaction when I have told a few people. Most people when they ask, I tell them that it is diet, exercise and NO SUGAR in ANYTHING (sugar is poison) My doctor said that the stomach is a crutch and a tool to help you, I really did not know what a NORMAL portion was until I had gastric. Now I do. I eat like a normal person and KNOW when I am full. Why are some people so mean? I don't know. Maybe they are envious, or just mean. But some people are jealous when you lose weight the old fashioned way too. Funny, no one likes to be the fatty, I guess cause of the social stigma attached, they justify it, like this, Welllllll at least I am smaller than SHE is!!!! When SHE gets small, then they have no one to measure themselves against and so they turn mean. Some folks LIKE to have someone to help them feel good, and I feel sorry for them. If I lose a friend like that, they REALLY were not my friend, and no great loss, I feel.........

Fortunately for me, I've not had this reaction, BUT I have chosen NOT to tell a few selected folks because I know this is the reaction I would get. But remember, it's ignorance on her part and has nothing to do with you. We do what we have to do and any help we get from our God-given miracles (our Docs) is a wonderful thing! smoochies Arlies