Need etiquette advice

Please tell me how to say something nice when people make a comment when I tell them I am at the goal I set for myself and have not lost any weight in a while. It bites my behind when they say "I thought you would just keep losing----hope you don't gain it back like ______________ did." or " Are you supposed to eat that???"and "Don't you want to lose some more?" I know I don't always say the right thing but I'm trying after some of the crazy and rude things that have been said to me on my journey. I guess the easiest thing to do is to thank them for their concern and tell them I want to keep the weight off, and that their concern will be a motivator. Lord, please help me be better--ALL THE TIME!!!! glenda

I used to deal with a lot of comments and questions when I was going through my fertility treatments. "Maybe you weren't meant to have children." "Aren't you ready to give up yet?" "Aren't you pregnant yet?" "You can have my kids." My response to that one was always, "Well, I have a lawyer..." or "Do your kids know you feel this way? That's so sad." You should have seen the looks on their faces. etc...etc...etc.... The list is endless. I would just tell people that I appreciate their concern, but I have my plan and I'm right where I want to be. Or, you can always answer their question with a question... Why do you ask? and just look at them. Most people it stops in their tracks. -Pam

Ohhhh.... I like Pamela's "why do you ask?" remark. That's a good one. I bet that will stop them. I would just tell them, if you feel you must answer them, that you are following your doctors plan and that both of you are pleased with your results. Then change the subject. It is very hard to deal with people's comments sometimes. We are never good enough for everyone, but as long as YOU are happy, that's all that matters. Perhaps you could just say, "I'm happy where I am." Just stand proud and they will eventually get it! GRRRRRRRR People make me so mad sometimes! HUGS Kimberly

Well, after you slap them down and pick them back up, you should prolly say something genteel like, "thanks for your concern, but you are an idiot and it's really none of your business." I know, I know.....I know!!! You need to remember that they aren't really trying to be rude, but are trying to be helpful, which I find funny! Just smile and say thanks for worrying. I would prolly tell them that I could eat whatever I want (well, most times I can!), but thank them for their concern. ONly if they are snippy and condescending would I reply with a "bite" in my answer - otherwise, just remember EVERYONE is not as educated as we are about this and we need to be gentle with them as much as we can - not easy after the 40 millionth time someone asks the same question, but just remember God's teaching of patience continues in everything! Love you dearly! smoochies Arlies

BTW, my best friend's wife STILL doesn't know I had this surgery and will NEVER know if it is up to me simply just because I don't want to hear her take on it! She just thinks I am a very, very, very picky eater and totally spoiled rotten!!!! And I admit that I encourage her in this belief!!! smoochies Arlies

LOL Queen.... did she know you before surgery? Has she asked how you've lost all that weight? Nothing wrong with being a little spoiled! HUGS K

She knew of me and had seen pictures, tho I don't know how recent. But everytime she sees me know, she says it looks like I've lost a little weight since I last saw her. I just smile and say thank you! I am just horrid, I know! Smoochies Arlies