Husband having 2nd thoughts...

Well, my Mom was not very active, I swear that was the reason she stayed so sick all the time. She sat at home all day everyday and didn't exercise or walk at all. You can not make it work if you don't eat right and exercise as you can. The more she sat at home, the more she thought about how bad she felt and it just seemed to make things even worse. Bless her heart she stayed so sick - daddy worked out of town alot and sometimes Mom would travel with him. He always knew to look for the closest hospital wherever they were because he know something would happen and Mom would be visiting it eventually. I know that alot of people back then had trouble with that surgery, you know how it goes when something is brand new... I also know that the doctors have learned so much over the years and the surgery is not the same as it was then! I have told Danny that as with any surgery, death and complications are a possiblility, but it is a chance I am willing to take to be healthy. He is just so scared that something will happen and I will end up leaving him alone with the kids to raise! I told him he couldn't be so lucky! He is stuck with me for a very long time! Thanks again for all your support! I just appreciate you so much - you are my Queen..... Marci

Hey Marci, I know exactly what u r talking about. Your husband sounds like mine did a few years ago. WLS was out of the question. Would not EVEN discuss it. But I work with lots of women here that have had it done. I just kept talking about it with him. He finally just recently started talking about it with me . He went to the seminar with me and also to the nurse's visit. He now understands that this something I feel I need to to for MYSELF not for anyone else except maybe for my childern. I want to be around for them. My mom is still totally aganist but she her self should check into it for she is much larger than I and can not get around well. But that is beside the point. My husband told me that if this was something I felt I really needed to do to get the weight off that he would now support me. I was so relieved. I also have been depressed because I have had no luck getting the weight off and if I did like you said it came back with a vengence. This forces you to change the way you eat. I am still waiting to hear from my insurance which i know they will cover it .The Dr's office just has to have that letter. I also cried while trying to get him to understand how miserable i am all the time. (tears help sometime to)...lol...My hubby and I have been married for 18 years in July. We have 2 kids ages 10 and 14 both boys. This site is awsome I just love everyone here they are so encouraging. Lots of words of wisdom here. Its also a good place to vent to..... Well good luck convencing hubby that this is the right decision for you. and him both. Let me tell you the benefits reallyl outway the risks from what I can get. The seminar showed me and him both that... well good luck keep us posted... tonya Oh and 2 years ago i had a tummy tuck plus 4 other procedures that was supose to be my encentive to loose the weight well guess what... i still have not lost the weight. I did loose the 8 pounds of flab off my stomach due to the tummy tuck. I have always been accused of being bass akwardsl....lol..... well luv ya and take care... (5 procedures and 9 hours on the operating table)

Hey Tonya, who done your tummy tuck? and were you pleased with the out come? I know i will need one , my sweet dr told me to wait until im a year and a half out, BUT I want it this summer! I will be a year out in june , need to line up a good palastic surgon! hehe dawn

See, my daddy would be so mad if he knew I was planning this. My mom had it done 20 years ago - back when they first started doing the bypass surgery and she had terrible complications. Needless to say they had to go back in after she begged them to and they found one of the staples had rusted and the rust was getting into her blood stream, causing the terrible problems she was having. The doctor offered to re-do the surgery for her, but my daddy told him to take all the staples out and put her back like she was before the surgery. She never was the same after that, and died 10 yrs ago at the age of 46 from Sudden Cardiac Death. As far as we know it had nothing to do with her surgery or reversal, but you can not tell my Daddy that. He swears her problems did not start until she had that surgery! Of course all of this is in the back of my husband's head as well and is not helping me in changing his mind! Thanks for the advice and be sure to keep me posted on your surgery! Marci

Rant all you want girl , i have to from time to time!hehe My anwser to changing his mind is to cry all day long for days on end , thats what i done and my hubby finally gave in! and if that don't work for ya you can always with hold your "affections" until he changes his mind! haha NOW that for sure will work! HAHA sorry i can't be of more realistic help , but honestly these are the kinda mind changing tacktics that i use, and they usually work! dawn

Girl you are so funny! I tried the crying - he sent me to a Psychiatrist! ha-ha. As for holding my "affections" he says I do that anyway, because I am so tired all the time. I tried to tell him that this surgery would probably improve my energy level.... lol Thanks for your advice - we can always count on you to give us a laugh! Marci

Well now Marci i think i have stumbled upon your answer! You TELL him that if you get your surgery he will have more "affections" than he can handle! I can tell ya my hubby is a happy tired man! hehe He would have you in that OR tomorrow if i only knew how much "ENERGY" you will have after you loose a few pounds (only took a very few for me)! hehe dawn OH BTW this is NOT information that my MOMMA needs to know- yhea, you know im talking 2 U- i see ya out there lurking around not talking to me!haha

You are so ROTTEN! I will try telling him that and see if it helps! I can hear his response now "promises, promises..." Thanks for cheering a girl up! Marci

Glad i could make you smile, seems to be what i'm good at! Hey if he don't belive you , i can get my DH to talk to him........... wait a minute that might not be such a good idea, poor thang is about to kill over from all this "energy" I got!!!!!!!!! HEHE yhea i know im BAD, but i dont lie! dawn

ummm... yeah I second that whole conversation topic y'all are talking about. The whole energy thing 's awesome and made it all worthwhile!! I have energy now that I didn't have since I was in highschool.. and my hubby , too, is a very tired HAPPY man these days. ~Andie~