Divorce

I would be lost without you... you know that. I dont know where I would be right now without you in my life cause you are a huge influence on me. I know I dont have to explain myself to people but I know how the rumor mill works and I cant stand people who run their mouths when they dont know what they are talking about. Assuming really drives me crazy and I would rather me say it than others make assumptions and read things the wrong way. Tonights fiasco is over. We will get past it. Its hard right now - you know that... We can tiff and still be friends in the morning... We are mature like that and we are FRIENDS! If we didnt quarrel we would be liars and say what we wanted each other to hear. At least we speak truth to each other whether it is what we want to hear or not. Promise me you wont stop speaking truth no matter how bad it hurts to hear it. I do have a lot of friends in Petal but yes you are the bestest... Just dont tell them I said that.. I have to string them along for when you are busy with your own life, I can go impose on theirs. Remember I wont have a washing machine. Haha... Thanks for being who you are and for putting up with me these past few months. I know it couldnt have been easy. I cant make decisions on my own and have to have input from everyone around me. I love you and cant wait to finally get moved so I can be adopted by you and John. You cook so much better than me.

See, I knew I was the bestest. But shh, I won't tell the others he he he. It is our secret. That way you have a back up plan when I am out of pocket which is rare at least. Good thing you have so many friends. You are right. That could come in very handy not having a washing machine. But, hey, you at least know where to bum quarters from for the laundry mat if need be. Just bat those eye lashes at John and he will share his stash. That man has more quarters than the The Grand. We will adopt you. And of course, I will do the cooking. You have to watch and learn though. And maybe wash a dish or two or three. See, I love to cook just don't like doing dishes. And you don't seem to mind helping with that when I cook. So we are a good team in the kitchen. It really hasn't been hard putting up with you during all of this. You really are a trooper I must say. Still smiling and being crazy. But I am here when you need to let that guard down and let it all spill out tears, laughs whatever helps. I can't wait to decorate your apartment. As you know, I have already bought some things. I know you will give me that thrill as you know how I love to decorate. We have some more shopping to do. Lunch hour trips here we come. Melissa

Whoa....you're getting divorced??? Where have I been?? Girl, actually I wanted to tell ya, been down that road and it's no fun but at least you guys are trying to work it out amicably < sp?> and in your daughter's best interest. I sure know how relieved you must be after trying to stick out a relationship that didn't make you happy and I wish you the very very best for your future, Christine. Honestly.... I didn't realize that was not your husband-- I don't look at other women's men that closely ( other than Arlies' handsome hubby hehe ) therefore you could have had Tom Cruise with you as a companion, I would have never noticed it LOL So please accept my apology for NOT talking about you.. I was clueless as usual---- may have been the Lortab. So you see, it wasn't me who made your ears ring Anyways, girl u know where to find us all, if you need to talk. ~Andie~

Hey Andie... Its going to be okay. I am okay with it... Kinda excited about it. Ready to be moved already. I was hoping not many people would realize he wasnt my husband. Only a handful have met him. I have been friends with Melissa for almost a year now and he has only been around her two or three times. Her son thought I was single up until about a month ago. Does that say anything? No, he wasnt real supportive. He has never said anything about my weight loss. NOTHING! Never got a compliment - so, its just been a long time coming. Even before my surgery I would wake up in the middle of the night trying to figure how I could manage if I left. I finally feel comfortable enough to do it. I will do it. I wont say it will be easy cause I dont think it will but it will be bearable. I actually appreciate that you didnt talk about me. I would much rather someone ask me something than say something behind my back. Not that you did... I just got a few funky looks and it made me a little uncomfortable as to what the looks were about. It may just be me being paranoid but I dont get into all the ying yanging stuff. She said/She said is not my cup of tea. Yea, I hear you were Jims woman and that he was in love with you. Better watch out Arlies will get you!! Nah, I bet she would share. She is that kind of person. I hope yall dont end up moving. We need to have a few more get togethers. I couldnt be married to a navy/army/guard person. I am home and I would hate to be worried about moving all the time. Talk to you soon, Christine

Hey Girl Sorry it took so long for me to reply, Sara kept me out of the house again yesterday as she forced me to go to Mobile, shopping LOL ( just kidding Sara!! I enjoyed it !! ). I know what you're talking about, about wondering if you can make it on your own, financially and all, and believe me I have been in your position, it's by no means easy, but you can do it!! I did it myself and I was very glad I did it, even though it meant doing without a few things for a while. I was married to my first husband for eight years ( met him when I was 16 and got married at 18 ). It wasn't so much that we were too young to get married, we got along good for a long time, but people change as they grow up, and we tried it amicably until some hussy ( who by the way now lives in Brandon MS along with her second hubby and my ex's 8 yr old son ) came along and put things in his ears and the divorce got really ugly. It's really a pity because we could easily just have worked it out peacefully and got along well, but the kids never suffered, they got both parens and we lived in the same town only minutes from each other. I never hated my ex but he ended up believing things about me that weren't true and he was really hating me....in the long run I'm glad I got out because I couldn't live with that kind of mental stress. I was single for 3 years, working as a cust. svc manager , holding down the fort at home, then had baby#3 a few yrs later. Her daddy ( my loving hubby ) and I didnt even get married till 2 yrs later when he joined the Navy, there was no rush, I sure didn't do things on the rebound. Things worked out great, we are really a good pair, we don't fight, we usually do things together and he compliments me all the times on how good I'm doing with the weightloss. He had preferred me to do it " the old fashioned way" but he supported me nontheless and loves what the results are now. So he 's very supportive, just very shy and besides, ALWAYS GONE lol. He would have probably came to the bash with me though, because there were other things to do than to hang out with us womenfolk...... if he wasn't stuck in Jacksonville FL. Your sweetie seems to be a really nice guy and he seems to adore you, hang on to him and enjoy your life, girlie!! Everyone deserves to be treated well by their mate. Married or not. Maybe my hubby will be home when Rhonda gets her housewarming party organized and we can all pay her a visit. I can put up a couple of folks at my house to make it easier and y'all dont have to spend money on a hotel. We have a spare room and I'll make the little one sleep with me to have her room with a full size bed for a couple of people. No problem. Navy life ain't all that bad. I keep busy with working and yeah.. if I was a stay at home mommy I would go insane!!! Keeping busy is the key to a happy military spouse LOL So anyways.. you know you got all of us if you need to talk, many have been thru the divorce thing, so don't hesitate if you need to talk. I'm here for ya too !! {{{{hugs}}}} ~Andie~

I am sorry to hear that things were not working for you both, but sometimes divorce is the start of a new life, especially if you are not happy with things. I wish you all the support in the world, and your new guy is a cutie!!!! Cheryl

Thanks Cheryl... He is a nice guy (most of the time) AND he has a truck --kinda comes in handy for the moving... haha...

Christine, I am glad , for Emily's sake ,that you both are civil. Divorce is tough enough on the kids without all the bickering. My prayers are with you and Emily as you go through the process of moving and the adjustment. Christine, you owe no one but Emily a reason. Keep your head up and smile, smile ,smile! All those gossips will wonder what your up to. He,He,He! Tomanip

Thank you.. Its been an emotional roller coaster ride. Its going to be okay. I think the quicker I get moved and settled the better off everyone will be. We had originally tried to get thru Christmas but that just isnt happening... I aint none too much worried bout those gossips... Well maybe a little.. I HATE to be talked about.. haha... You're so sweet... Talk to you later, Christine

Christine, Hun I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. From a male point of view I know that these are hard for everyone involoved. I have been there done that myself so I know it is tough. But I have to join the list of the clueless.....lol. Sheryl asked me when we were coming home which one was your hubby and I said heck I dont know I will have to look at the tape and find out. Well you seemed to do a pretty good job of avoiding my camera. The only shots I have of you are in the pagent and one or two by yourself or the one I got of you eating.HEHEHEHEHE If there is anything I can do to help please let me know. You have been a true insperation to me during all of this. And if there is any way I can repay you for all your mental help that you have given me just let me know.lol and Lord knows I am mental lol. Keep your head up and remember you are loved by so many that it will be a great new life. One more thing if there is a area how do I seem to miss it so much I stay clueless most of the time lol Barry