Divorce

Well, for those of you who did not know.. I guess I should share that I am getting divorced. Its been a long time coming and after 10 years we have decided to go our seperate ways. Most of yall knew this but some didnt and since I was at the bash with someone other than my husband I guess the cat is out of the bag. We are trying to be real civil and make it easy on us and on our daughter. I will be moving over the next couple of weeks into an apartment in Petal near Melissa. This is a blessing for me because it is so close to her and right now it is really hard to find anything anywhere due to all of the evacuees... So, I feel really blessed that this came open. Plus, Petal has a really good school system and my daughter will really like the school. Just wanted to share... I got a couple of emails today and my ears were burning at the bash Saturday so I just wanted to let everyone know the situation. Hope everyone is doing well... Christine

Well your ears should have been burnin cause I've been talkin about you alot, but guess what it was all good. I hate you are going through a hard time, but at least ya'll are being civil that makes it easier on everyone involved. If I can ever help you you know where I'm at. Becky

Hey Becky... I am glad we got to talk about it this weekend. I know we talked about it before but we really got to talk more face to face and you are so supportive whether its right or wrong and I appreciate that you dont judge me. I know I can trust you with my life and you are a wonderful friend to me. I just wish you would move over here with us....hehe... Maybe we can get a Nissan plant in Hattiesburg. I will see if I can get the wheels turning. Lets get our weekend planned... I am ready...

Of course you should know by now, that we love you and are here for you. The most important thing to me is that YOU are happy and that Emily is happy and safe. You are a wonderful mother and you will give her enough love and support that she will be fine. The offer is always open, if you need someone to talk to or to just get away for a weekend, I am always here for you. I wish you the best in your future. I enjoyed spending time with all of you this weekend. Love ya Girl!! Give Emily a big hug! Rhonda

Thanks Rhonda.. I have been burning up the phone all night with Melissa talking... Once I have filled her ears up to where she cant take it anymore I might just give ya a call.

Christine, I do not know what to say. I am here for you. Divorce is so hard. I will be praying for you and all that may come your way during the next few months. If you need me, please email me and I can be in Petal in less than an hour. [email protected] Sonya Sumrall

Sonya, I missed you this weekend. I was so hoping you were going to be able to come to the bash. I really enjoy your company and I think we all hit it off very well. I have never been divorced before so it is a new experience for me. I hope it continues to go smoothly but I know everyone has feelings and this is going to be one of the hardest periods in my life. Its not just me anymore - I have my child and I have to make sure it is not tramatic for her. So far it has been okay and she is excited about moving... but ya never know how it will actually be once we get moved and her daddy isnt coming thru the doors anymore. We need to have a get together once I get moved. I will need all the company I can get so I dont get lonely. Christine

Christine, I'm sorry to hear that you and your daughter are going through some bad times....take it from me, it WILL get better....i was married for 14 years to my kids daddy and we divorced when they were 10 and 14...it was hard on us all but i think it was harder for us before the divorce having to live the way we did......it was kinda like you said in one of your other posts, alot of folks told me that they never even knew i was married!....it was always me and my girls; he never participated in anything we did...had his own life and was content that we had ours....that's not the way a marriage should be.....course, alot of other stuff went on that i won't go into....BUT, God closes one door only to open another.....he sent me the best thing that ever happened to me and my family....we've been married 8 years and i don't know what i'd do without him.....so, hang in there girl!....and be ready for those "good" doors to be opened.....one thing though....my mamaw always told me "don't settle" for something....wait for the best cos you deserve it!..Take care and my prayers are with you and your daughter!

Hi Lori, Sounds like we are a match!! Haha.. I wont settle. I want this time to be more for me and Emily and getting used to being by ourselves. I am kind of looking forward to having every other weekend to myself..I have never been without her so it will be a change of pace and so QUIET! Haha... Thank you for the prayers - they are much needed! Chrisitne

Well, you know I hate you are having to go through all of this, but this separation has been a long time coming. And on the upside you will now live in the same town as me. And I can be there for you and help you with whatever you need. And we can drive John crazy on a very regular basis now LOL with our silliness and drama. You will be fine. You are an independent woman and a strong willed one too. You can make it all on your own, and you have so many friends in Petal to be there for you. Of course, I am the very best one, right? Don't answer that after tonights fiasco!! Hey, I came bearing gifts for your apartment though. So that should make up for it, huh? LOL. Don't ever think you have to explain things to people. No one should stay in an unhappy marriage just because they think it is what they are supposed to do. Life is too short to live it miserable. You are a good person and deserve to be happy. And I am sure you will find that happiness you are looking for. Just take your time and make sure things are right for the long haul. I love you and am always here for you, Melissa