Head games

Morning all, I have this thing in the back of my head. I have failed so many times till I am at a dieting weight of 362 lbs. Now I am scared this (RNY) won't really work either. I have read everything and can see that it will but, it's like I can't really let go and believe or hope. So scared also.

Regina, This is a normal thought process that we all have been through or are going to go through. The surgery will work if you surround yourself with positive people. Stay posting on the board, attend the support group meetings, and mind your doctor. The weight will come off!!! If someone is talking negative to you about the surgery, distance yourself from them until after surgery!!! Some of the people I know that told me every horror story in the book are now singing my praises at how well I am doing. We are here for you! Sonya Sumrall

Regina, Everyone at one point wonders " will this work for me? " and it's normal to feel that way. I can just point you in the direction of every post-op's profile and say, read them! I'm 14 months out, down a total of 138 lbs. Yes. It works. Just hang in there, have faith and be patient a little longer. Soon you will see those pounds falling off and you'll forget all about your worries. ~Andie~ 06.23.2004 334/196/173

EVERYBODY THINKS THEY WILL BE THE ONE THAT FAILS AT THIS!!!! Trust me, you can fail, but you will have to work EXTREMELY hard to fail and I don't see that happening. You have a normal worry! So don't worry!!! , I know, but you will be fine! Smoochies Arlies

Trust me Regina I still struggle with this. lol lol And I am a year out as of yesterday. I still worry that in two years I will be gaining my weight back. And you know that is totally possible but there comes a time when you have to decide to use this tool that was given to you and use it to the best advantages. It is alot easier to "diet" now than in the past plus being smaller it is easier to exercise and stay motivated. Stick with this board and with your local support group for added support. You will totally need it! You will be fine and wont believe the difference in how you feel. Love ya Denise

Regina, We all have this feeling at one point or another. It is not hard, either way you do it. You know from past experience that it is not easy to diet and exercise, it is hard to stay motivated when you only lose a pound a month if that. I never had any luck, I could not stick to a diet long enough for it to work. Exercise was not in my vocabulary because I was always too tired! Now, I wake up feeling refreshed most mornings and ready to tackle the day. I even put thought into "what am I going to wear tomorrow" when I used to not care. I totally did not care what I wore because I did not feel I looked good in anything I wore. Now, I get daily compliments, and that is such a good feeling. I am still having the "are they talking to me" frame of mind, but when I look in the mirror I see the difference by a long shot. I am only five and a half months post op and I have lost a total of 90 pounds now. I started out weighing 240 pounds and wearing size 22's and now I am 150 pounds wearing 10/12's. I never in my life thought I would be able to wear a size 10 again. I went through quite a bit of complications after my surgery, but I can tell you as of today, I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. It was the best thing I have ever done for myself! If you ever need to talk, vent or just cry, we are all here for you! Your new Family... Rhonda G. Lap RNY 03/01/05 240/150/125 90 down and 25 to go!!

I am 8 months out and down 126 pounds. I have 50 to go to my goal, and I am just as nervous about the last 50 as I was about the first 10!!!! I am so scared that I wont make it. I guess I am right there with you girl. I am sure if I reach my goal I will be just as worried about gaining it all back.

Hey Regina, I had those same feelings every now and then at the beginning. Of course, that was 100 pounds ago. Phillip Senter