Bad News

Ladies, I want to thank you all for your support and answers to my questions. I probably will not be having my surgery as soon as I had hoped. As they say, life happens. My dad went in for his results today, and they were not good. His melanoma mets to his liver, and that is a bad spot for it to go. My mom did not ask the doc any questions, so I am calling him on Thursday to get some answers. The treatment he is giving my dad means one of two things: the cancer is too bad, and there is nothing much they can do, or he just isn't well versed in the treatment of stage 4 melanoma. Depending on the answers I get on thursday will change a few things in my life. If it is terminal, I will be moving to PA with my mom and dad to help out for as long as needed. If it is not yet terminal, things may go as planned, but I would have to move quickly, as I need to be well should things take a turn for the worse. On top of things, hubby and I have been looking for a new house. We found a nice one in wiggins and in the pass, but that will probably be put on hold also. I really appreciate you all. I look forward to returning, and hopefully I will have good news. I may stick around regardless if that is ok with you all. I am still planning on going to the inform meeting at keesler, and will probably go to the support groups, that way I am ready when it is time for me to go. Please keep me and my family in your prayers. My dad's name is Raymond, and my mom is Carolyn. Thanks again, Hugs, Connie

You and your family are in my prayers. Keep your chin up! If you ever need someone to talk to, I am here. Rhonda

Thank you for your prayers, they are much appreciated. I will be at the support group meeting at the end of the month. I hope to see you there. Hugs, Connie

Connie, You are doing the right thing by going to your parents in PA. You'll never regret it. It will be rough on all of you but together you can get through it. We will be lifting you up in prayers daily. My Dad was 80, in Nov. 1994, when he was diagnosed with melignant Cancer of the bones, lung and prostate. He and my Mom keep it a secret for over a month so as to not ruin everyone's Christmas. I went to work the next day and told my boss I was leaving for New Jersey and did not know when I'd be back.Fortunately the job was there for me when I got back. Dad died in February 1995, I thank God he was not in pain. I also thank God for the time we had together, we talked alot and we laughed and cried together. He told me stories that I had never heard before, and he told me how much he loved Mom. He also told me how much he loved me and how proud of me he was. So go Connie and don't look back. They are your parents and they need you. You will have your surgery just not now. My Grandmother always said "Everything happens for a reason, we just don't always understand ."

Hi Velna, I have always said I would take care of my parents when they needed me. That is one reason I became a nurse. My mom took careof my grandfateher when he was dying with cancer. I was 15. It was her devotion to him that drove me to being a nurse. I wanted to be rpepared should I even be needed. I hate being so far away. What is worse, I have 2 siblings up there that kinda take mom and dad for granted, and now it is kinda hitting them. It is ashame when you take people for granted and it takes something like this to wake you up. Anyhow, I trust God, and his Will for our lives. I have Fith that God will pull us all through this. Thanks for your encouragment and kind words! Hugs, Connie

Connie, I hate to hear that about your dad. All of you will be in my prayers. Of course with or without surgery you are welcome to stay aboard. Becky

Becky, thank you so much for your prayers. I appreciate every single on of them Hugs, Connie

Hey Connie, I am sorry to hear about your Dad, I pray that God will touch him ,May he provide peace to you and your family in this trial you are going through ...Hugggggs.......Sherry...

Thank you so much, Sherry, for your kind words and prayers! Hugs, Connie

Oh, Connie, I hope and pray that things will work out and your Dad will be healed. If you do wind up moving to PA to be with them, please stay in contact with us on the board. You are a forever sister to us all and we want to be a part of your life, where ever it leads you. My prayer is that you will be able to have surgery and your Dad will be healed. Lord bless your Mom during this. As a wife, I know what it is like to go thru a scarey cancer strike with a dear hubby. I hope and pray that it turns out as well for your folks as it did for Jim and I. Love you to bits and back. Smoochies Arlies